So strange, and yet must be such a relief to have consistency and clarity. I still get such mixed messages on the beach and in public.
Today I ended a relationship with a girl I've been seeing for about 3 months. My therapist has encouraged me to try dating men again, so I'm...
(The usual disclaimer: this is a very long post.) Today, my therapist asked me, "What's it gonna take for you to get unstuck?" This floored me....
This is a really great response, thank you. I’m trying to get there. There is a strongly judgmental part of me that immediately associates...
Interesting question. I know you meant "personally attacked" in relation to being gay, but the first thing that comes to mind is something else....
Before I realized I was gay, I had almost no awareness of homosexuality. I knew kids called each other "faggot" as an insult, but that didn't...
Cashew: yes I've been in therapy for over 20 years. Long stretches of that were with gay therapists. More recently my therapists have been...
Thanks to everyone for your responses. I know that my feelings aren't necessarily rational, but they are still quite strong. I wish I knew how...
Hi everyone -- good see some familiar names :) Seems like the common thread here is about bottoming, and sex in general, as being part of a...
I don't have a problem with the idea of being gay. I would be fine telling people I'm gay, or showing up to an event with a male partner,...
I think antidepressants are a way to manage symptoms (depression), but not address root causes (discomfort with your sexual orientation). In my...
Your story is a pretty common one here on EC -- guy has gay feeling as a young man, guy represses them to get married and start a family, gay...
A lot of people use the apps and seem to have a good time. I'm not really an expert, but my advice would be to try and meet for coffee or a drink...
Hi Indalo, Your post really spoke to me. I am in a similar situation, except that I have already been married and divorced. But I miss my...
Yep. I'm home alone. Was stood up for a date tonight, and also for a beach trip tomorrow (although that one may get rescheduled). I'm sober now...
I have thought a lot about this subject myself, since I still have a strong emotional attachment to my ex wife. My theory is that my feelings for...
If my math is correct, you have at least 7 years to solve this problem. Don’t worry about it right now, and it will likely resolve itself.
Another way to think about it is from a pragmatic standpoint. Even if they are sinful/kinky/whatever, you have these feelings and they’re not...
I spent several years in therapy with a prominent psychologist who specializes in OCD. There are indeed some versions of OCD where the primary...
My interpretation of your response is that you felt like they were pressuring you to meet their expectations and you were angry and resentful...
