I too have been an avid reader of teen and young adult coming of age stories. I think, like you, that it validates me in some deep way. But also,...
Steve, I was in a similar situation. I knew that I needed come out to my wife. I knew I was gay, I was already 69 years old, and I was desperate...
Chris, My situation was very similar to yours. I had been married for 27 years (no kids, though) and finally reached the point, at 69, when I...
Sorry the first post got duplicated... To finish the story about my wife, she slowly recovered, still depressed but not suicidal. And we slowly...
What a great set of questions to ask! I have known that I was "different" since I was 10, and that I was attracted to guys since I was about 12....
A bit of background... I’m 73 and I’ve known I was gay since I was 12, but I tried to deny it and “fit in”. So much so that I married twice. My...
Holding the Man Broken Hearts Club (with Timothy Olyphant as a young gay man) The Bubble
Have you heard of GFAS (Gay Fathers Association of Seattle). They're a great support group, meeting weekly on Capitol Hill. They were a terrific...
Came out at 69, completely inexperienced with men. Known I was different at 5 or 6, knew I was gay at 12 or 13, but lived in denial/self-deceit...
I had a nerve-sparing prostatectomy 14 years ago that somewhat dimished my ability to maintain an erection, and I'm on 2...
Brian, When I first came out to my wife just over two years ago, I told her pretty much what you told your wife--that I needed time and space...
This. Absolutely this. My wife and I have been separated for almost 2 years--our divorce will be final soon--and my boyfriend is now living with...
Welcome to EC! Most of us here have been right where you are at one time or another. I lived as a closeted gay man for my entire life until 2...
I think you're right--it is conditioning. Living in the closet is an incredibly isolating experience. When I was young, guys NEVER talked about...
Wow! So proud of all of you! I came out at 69, after a lifetime of hiding...
To those of us who are finally and fully out, no, it doesn't really matter, except as a form of storytelling, of sharing our experiences with...
Does your university have a Gay-Straight Alliance? That might be a safe place to meet people and/or discuss your feelings.
You don't say how old you are, so I'm not sure this is the right question for you... Is being able to apply a label so important? Why not just...
I understand your feelings, I think. I came out as gay a year ago last January, at 69, because, finally, I needed to live and authentic life with...
Without getting into a debate about this, Try taking this one step at a time. Go out and meet guys. Start dating. If you reach the point someday...
