I am setting up new therapy goals for the next several months of work with my therapist. I would appreciate any input that can be gained by...
GreatWhale, there is so much wisdom and insight in your posts. Please keep them coming, as you have a very keen way of cutting through the crap...
I LOVE being in therapy with the right therapist. I had a pretty high opinion of how well balanced I was, only to find out that I have developed...
Big HUGS from all of us who understand and resonate with the feelings you're experiencing. You are not alone. It's just the darker side of...
Authenticity and acceptance are so very important to all of us. I asked my therapist to hold onto those for me, while I rid myself of all my...
Yes, "thank you" biAnnika, I think it's a dress rehearsal for the real event. Told my therapist that for now, at this very moment in my process,...
I have been struggling with what to do next in my coming out process. I have been out to my wife for a year now, but on Friday, I had this...
I am beginning to hit all of my one year anniversary dates. Just passed the one-year anniversary of the intended suicide that was disrupted by a...
PresidentC, you have done the right thing, even though you now have a "shared" issue, versus one that you'd previously kept to yourself. Sharing...
From my perspective, I think fully out gay and lesbian people are hesitant to get too close to those of us who are "half-way" out and particularly...
I want GreatWhale to be my therapist! Oh, wait....maybe he already is my on-line therapist....or at least, trusted and wise advisor. I totally...
I have read through this entire chain three times just because it is so powerful and contains so much wisdom. I have been trapped by my own...
I am so sorry that this happened to you. Reading what state you're in helps to put this in context. Where I'm from, we have protections for...
As a gay man married to a woman, I have a deep friendship with a man who is in the same situation. We do not have a physical relationship of any...
I love Skiff's advice. Simple and very clear. If you do tell her, expect that there will be some really rough periods where you question your...
I would suggest you ask her to do some couples counseling with you. It's as important to consider HOW two people separate, as it is for them to...
Aldrick's advice is excellent. I once did a touch workshop for men led by a man from Switzerland. He used many of the same techniques, allowing...
Our stories are quite similar. I have felt many of the same attractions to men throughout my life, and as my sexual relationship with my wife...
I have great R-E-S-P-E-C-T for what you've been through and delight in the future that's about to unfold.
After this courageous step, the best thing you can give yourself and your spouse is time. Time to adjust and time to heal from the shock and...
