Today I ended a relationship with a girl I've been seeing for about 3 months. My therapist has encouraged me to try dating men again, so I'm...
(The usual disclaimer: this is a very long post.) Today, my therapist asked me, "What's it gonna take for you to get unstuck?" This floored me....
Interesting question. I know you meant "personally attacked" in relation to being gay, but the first thing that comes to mind is something else....
Before I realized I was gay, I had almost no awareness of homosexuality. I knew kids called each other "faggot" as an insult, but that didn't...
I don't have a problem with the idea of being gay. I would be fine telling people I'm gay, or showing up to an event with a male partner,...
I think antidepressants are a way to manage symptoms (depression), but not address root causes (discomfort with your sexual orientation). In my...
A lot of people use the apps and seem to have a good time. I'm not really an expert, but my advice would be to try and meet for coffee or a drink...
Hi Indalo, Your post really spoke to me. I am in a similar situation, except that I have already been married and divorced. But I miss my...
Yep. I'm home alone. Was stood up for a date tonight, and also for a beach trip tomorrow (although that one may get rescheduled). I'm sober now...
If my math is correct, you have at least 7 years to solve this problem. Don’t worry about it right now, and it will likely resolve itself.
Another way to think about it is from a pragmatic standpoint. Even if they are sinful/kinky/whatever, you have these feelings and they’re not...
I spent several years in therapy with a prominent psychologist who specializes in OCD. There are indeed some versions of OCD where the primary...
My interpretation of your response is that you felt like they were pressuring you to meet their expectations and you were angry and resentful...
You’re going through a mourning process and it’s natural. You’re mourning the loss of your old life and identity. Give yourself the space and...
Here’s my two cents. Put up some dating profiles and mention you’re “discreet.” See who you match with and talk to. Maybe arrange a coffee date....
I can identify with your post for two reasons. First, I’m also an alcoholic. Second, I recently started dating trans women. If you live in an...
Hi Adam, it’s definitely rough out there. I can identify with everything you said. I happen to live in NYC where the sheer density of people makes...
This is an incredibly difficult position to be in. You feel like you have to make an impossible choice: harming someone you love or never living...
Hey Nic, I think you are right, there are some deeper issues here for sure. I’ve been in therapy for over 20 years and I still haven’t fully...
I am, I’ve actually been dating quite a bit lately. But not dating men. And always topping sexually. I enjoy dating girls, both cis and trans....
