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I'm officially out

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  1. Rayland

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    This was so hard, but my mom accepts me. Like I thought my dad was trying to change my mind and thinks it's all in my head and they say things like it's dangerous for my health and we can't afford surgeries, what isn't wrong, but I've researched everything.There is no changing my mind. I won't be thrown out and they told me they should be nuts, if they do that just because of this. They love me no matter what. This was so emotional. I started crying right away after telling them. They don't want it to be known publicly, but I said it needs to happen, if I want to transition. I tried to explain that it makes me feel better. My dad has hard time understanding this.
     
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    I may be far younger than you but I'm so proud of you for taking this leap. Im so glad your parents were mostly supportive of you too! they may not publicly want it known and while that may be difficult it is something new they may need a little extra time to understand. Im sure eventually they won't have any problems with you being yourself in public. :grinning:
     
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    Thank you. I hope so. I'm sure it takes time to adjust.
     
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    That is awesome man congratulations. I'm proud of you. Your parents seem pretty receptive and should hopefully come to an understanding given enough time.
     
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    Thank you. I feel so much lighter now. I was feeling sick before telling. I thought it was because I hadn't eaten, but even after eating I was still feeling sick, but I got better after telling them and after all the tension lifted. Now I can attend support groups and stuff, withouth needing an exuse.
     
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    Congratulations Rain!! I bet that feels so much better! I'm proud of you, bro!
     
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    Thank you bro. Appreciate it. It's a relief for sure.
     
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    Congratulations! I'm so happy for you! I hope things will get even better from now!
     
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    I'm glad you came out! I can understand how your dad doesn't understand this, but it will get better!
     
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    You've been so brave. Congrats, Rain! We're all so proud of you. Hopefully, your dad will get to understand you even if it takes a little bit of time. You've taken a huge step today. I'm so happy for you.

    Loads of hugs! :slight_smile:
     
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    Congratulations you're so awesome! I'm very happy for you buddy :slight_smile:
     
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    Honestly you’re very brave <3
    In a country which is quite transphobic, you’ve defied odds and been accepted by your own family. You should be so proud of yourself, as if you aren’t, I’m proud for you Rain.

    Honestly your Dad will learn to love you. True parents love their children unconditionally, and I can only hope that you have parents like that <3
     
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    Thank you everyone. My dad says I make everything up and it's all in my head and I'm trusting doctors too much. I'm currently angry at him, but angry quietly. He will eventually get it and if not, then I will be sad, but can't do anything about it. I will just try to be happy, even withouth his approval.
     
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    Rain.....I am really happy for you!

    ***Happy*** ***Happy*** ***Happy*** ***Happy*** :old_smile: :old_smile: :old_smile: :old_smile:

    This was a huge step and you took it in spite of the danger of being rejected. And YOU WERE NOT REJECTED!! Your dad doesn't seem to really understand completely yet, but that will change with time. The important thing here is that the "Big Secret" is GONE! You don't have to hide who you are from your parents anymore...you can be you! The weight of trying to be someone that you aren't has been lifted from your shoulders and you are free to be yourself...CONGRATULATIONS RAIN...YOU ARE NOW AND ALWAYS WILL BE YOU! :old_big_grin:

    .....David :gay_pride_flag:
     
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    I am so happy for you Rain and glad that your coming out went so well, allowing you to be yourself around your parents.

    I am sure that with time your parents will start becoming comfortable with you being out publicly as well. In some ways, your parents also have to come out and from the sounds of it, it might happen sooner rather than later. :slight_smile:
     
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    Thank you @quebec and @Mirko hopefully it will be like this. My dad can be very stubborn. It all is a big relief though, like a rock fell off my shoulders.
     
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    I've replied in another thread, but just to say I'm proud and exciting for you, Rain. Onwards and upwards now - to transition!

    Hugs, Beth x
     
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    Thank you Beth. Hugs. The transitioning might happen earlier than expected.


    Now my dad says stuff like I don't have male parts and supress this side. Told him I have supressed it since kindergarten. Not anymore.
     
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    As hard as this might be, give it some time and if you can, try to engage your dad in a meaningful conversation. It is possible that your dad is looking for answers or information to make sense of the world he is finding himself in.

    You are asking your dad (and your mum) to join you on your journey. You are the best person to take them along, slowly revealing aspects of your life, they are unfamiliar with. They might have fears and worries and helping them to come to understand and see that you are still you while also wanting to live an authentic life, might help them.

    One step at a time.
     
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    It's impossible to have a meaningful conversation with him, withouth him saying stuff like this and riddicule me some way and just simply listen and trying at least to understand, since feelings to him are pointless. I will try my best though. He knows what it all means, since he perfectly described it all once to my sister.
     
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