Loneliness and dysphoria

I don't really know how to reply.

My friends used to tell me "I will be there for you in the high and in the lows, through the storm and through the shine, through the pain/suffering and through the joy/happiness. No matter what you are going through, I will be there for you"

So, I know we don't know each other personally, but same thing goes for you "I will be there for you in the high and in the lows, through the storm and through the shine, through the pain/suffering and through the joy/happiness. No matter what you are going through, I will be there for you". I hope you get to feeling better, I'm here if you wanna talk

 

I thought of some other stuff to say

When I was younger, and this still happens to me today I had a phobia of Being alone or being lonely, A mix of both (Its Called Autophobia) (Hopefully this makes sense and helps a little) my parents loved to go on vacations without me, and everything (To the store, the park, etc) it got to the point were I was so freaking lonely and that I was always alone, I would have to deal with any kind of pain, alone and it literally scared me to death to the point were being lonely and being alone would make me throw up, because dizzy, and faint (Please don't think that, that might happen to you also) but then I made some really good friends who tell me a whole lot back then "I will be there for you in the high and in the lows, through the storm and through the shine, through the pain/suffering and through the joy/happiness. No matter what you are going through, I will be there for you" and when I needed them they were there for me, faster then flash could be.

I think all you need is some really really good friends, and try to distract yourself, play a game, go outside and run 30 miles, whatever makes you get your mind off of stuff.

I hope you get better soon!

 

Hey bud.

As for your dysphoria, unfortunately I don't know how it is to feel it, so I don't know if I can be very helpful. Anyhow, you know I'm here if you ever need to talk or to vent. I can imagine how bad you might be feeling, even though I haven't gone through your pain.

As for the other thing you mentioned (feeling lonely all the time, and even so getting tired of socialising), I can relate perfectly. So, I totally feel you. Sometimes we can be surrounded by lots of people who try to help us, but there is something (a tough feeling we don't know how to identify) that it's still there and doesn't go even by talking or spending time with our friends. I bet that many have experienced so in their lives.

Maybe a good thing to do would be to take some time for yourself, as Meowz said, and distract yourself with something you really enjoy and forget about the rest of the world. I've talked to you and I know that you're always there to help others, but maybe (I don't know) it would be great to give yourself your space and your time.

I don't know if I'm talking rubbish or not. But you're a great person and you deserve to be happy.

And I don't know what else to say, but I send you a big warm hug and remember you're not alone. Feel free to leave me a PM if you ever need to vent.

 

I'm sorry to hear that. It might be cool to find a balance. I mean: everybody has their time to vent. If you are not able to express your feelings, do you think it's because you don't feel comfortable expressing them or because you don't have a chance (I mean everyone talks about their problems and there's no space for you to talk) or, maybe, a bit of both?

Wow, that's a tough feeling. All you can do in order to ease that pain will be good for you, so if imagining your soul and your body being two different entities helps you to make you feel better, I don't think it does any harm. I mean, I'm not a therapist, but I guess everyone has their little strategies to feel better when they'r going through a bad time. Hopefully, as long as you get closer to get on T and let yourself be you, you will feel better. Hold on, my friend, you're walking towards your objective and even if the steps seem short (which are not; you're making a great progress), you're moving forward.

Sorry for not being very helpful. Hugs

 

I understand. On the one side you don't feel comfortable enough, and on the other side you don't feel that you get your space in the cases you'd like to talk about your problems. Is there any very good friend you trust enough in your group of friends you can talk about that? Anyway, you don't have to if you don't feel like.

I know talking to somebody face to face can be more helpful than doing it online. Anyhow, don't forget you have this great community that will support you no matter what. It might not be a solace to you, when you're having a bad time in your real life, but you're not alone in this.

I know what I said is not very helpful probably, so sorry again.

Thank you. That's so kind of you. Warm hugs.

 

I see. Well, it's a very difficult situation. Obviously, your friends have their problems, quite serious also. I don't know what to say in this case. Socialising has never been my thing, as well. I understand you want to help your friends and that's very honourable on your side.

You've talked about shyness and low self esteem as issues that have been an obstacle for you, but even though they're still there (as far as I understand), you seem to be on your way to overcome them. And that's something that should make you feel proud of yourself.

Exactly, you're a person with your own feelings too and friendship, as I see it, should be a balance. That is, for instance: "I'm there when you need me, and you're there when I need you". I've noticed that introverts and shy people (I say that because I consider myself an introvert too), sometimes attract people who might take advantage on their shyness and that is very hurtful. Anyway, that shouldn't stop us for trying to improve our social relationships and the way we interact with other people. We might have things more difficult but we can't give up. It's our own happiness and our own well-being what we're fighting for and that's something that no one should ignore. Easier said than done, of course.

I don't know if any of this makes sense for you.

Hugs.

 

That's huge and I'm hoping it goes great! I'll be with you in spirit and cheering for you!

 

Wow that's so awesome and I like the forge your path part! We're all pulling for you bud!

 

It's great that you've noticed what triggers your dysphoria. Talking is a good thing to do always, especially when you feel lonely and your dysphoria appears.

The good thing about EC is that you have a lot of people who are available to talk to you. We may not be there physically, but we're there in the distance.

In my case, you can talk to me whenever you need it. I may not answer immediately, but lately I try to connect here at least once a day. Also, I probably won't have a solution, but I'll be willing to listen to you. And, by the way, talking also helps me when I'm feeling lonely and talking to a good friend like you who is intelligent and kind is always very interesting and helpful. I'm also aware that you have here a lot of friends who would do the same for you. So, don't feel lonely and ask for help and talk whenever you need it. That's what EC is about.

Edited: I've read your plans of coming out and I wish you the best of lucks.