I thought I could 'train' myself to like giving oral to women, but that never happened. I looooooove the 'dessert' it feels to intimate and sensual to have it in my mouth. I feel very satisfied after giving a good bj and it's not like I don't get great feelings like doing it. Honestly me orgasming after that or 'getting off' sounds just tiring after a full bj. I also like that I don't feel sexually drained like men do after ejaculating. Since I accepted that I was gay and started to have sex, ejaculation for me is no longer the focus. The orgasm like feelings from receiving anal is far more of a turn on.
Is that what they mean when they say only gays get to have dessert? When I read stuff like this it really makes me want to try it and see what it is, but I wonder if that's just what it feels like being on the receiving end anyway?
Might be, but AFAIK it’s a common issue with guys, they’ll want BJs but won’t go down on a girl. All too often it’s not because of the private parts, but the very act itself. Some see it as a sign of submission, which goes against the grain with their notions of masculinity, for others it’s prejudice towards touching the part where the penis goes in. (But this is probably mostly an Eastern European thing, it’s a long story of certain idiotic cultural ideas.)
When it comes to oral sex it has to be equal opportunities - there can't be an imbalance. Me? Back in the days when I still thought I was a guy I loved both giving and receiving. And I'm fairly certain when I do finally return to the dating game as me (and hopefully with new genitals) I'll feel the same way. Beth x
I wouldn’t know there is only[ one place I can receive but what I have read about female sexuality it does seem similar and many of the positions and roles are similar
I don’t think there’s an equivalent of that Eastern Europe thing here. I thought it was pretty much a standard thing in most people’s repertoires. I guess it could be submissive if done in certain ways, like her on top. But in other ways it’s a pretty dominant act for the one who is giving.
If the giver is in control then it definitely isn't submissive IMO. If the receiver is in control then its a bit different. But that's not my style.
Very interesting conundrum... and one which I somewhat share. I very much enjoyed going down on women, but didn't much like the "look" of the V. I appreciate the beauty of a Penis, but can't imagine putting my mouth on one. As for porn... it's a tricky subject. For some it's a tool, for others an addiction, and for some like myself a form of torture (makes me feel bad about myself but I can't stop looking). Good luck on your journey.
I never imagined either was something I'd actually enjoy doing. Especially the former, growing up as a 'straight' girl I never imagined finding so much enjoyment in being with another girl. And yet it doesn't seem to make me want any less with my boyfriend, if anything its the other way around.
I don't really link dom and sub terms that closely who's top or bottom. To me it's who initiates lovemaking and how he directs the course of sex. I'm relatively versatile but love giving oral and absolutely love (like Searching 2022 states) getting dessert. When the mood strikes I can go with it. As for the OP's question, I like the total person and I also like his genitals.
