We watched Birdcage in the end. I couldn't sense any resentment towards the gay characters from his side, but he did seem cautious in the beginning. My guess is that he knows about me but doesn't want to talk about it or is waiting for me to come out. To me, he seems to be somewhere in the middle between "I'll love you no matter what" and "This is too much for me to handle, what will people say if they find out?", as if he's ok with me being gay but not with me being gay publicly. So, I didn't come out, but we had some conversations about gay rights in general. He agreed that LGBTIQ+ people should have the same legal rights and status as str8 people. I've been exposing him incrementally to the nonheterosexual content and will continue to do so until getting comfortable enough to say the words. Thanks for all your advices, you really helped me.
This is actually a very good idea. I was lucky in that I already knew my parents were lgbtqia+ affirming beforehand. I hope everything continues to go smoothly with your father.
I suspect you're probably right. He probably suspects. (I mean, if you're 30, don't have a girlfriend, and don't talk about girlfriends... people are likely going to start wondering...) So since you've both watched the movie (which had very positive portrayals of a stable (or relatively so) gay couple who raised a child that is now a healthy, normal adult... it might be time to rip off the band-aid and just out yourself. What do you think?