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What to talk about on a first date?

Discussion in 'Family, Friends, and Relationships' started by Canterpiece, Dec 20, 2022.

  1. Canterpiece

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    So, I've never been on a date before and I think I have one coming up soon. Uh, help?
     
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    Your work
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    Where you live
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    The local LGTBQ+ scene (if there is one)
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    Things you love
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    Christmas
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    That should be enough to be going on with..

    Don't forget to ask her questions, though not too many (it's not an interview).

    And the conversation...let it flow, let it flow, let it flow!

    And if it doesn't flow? Maybe it wasn't meant to be.

    No worries. Plenty mo' fish in the sea.

    Good luck!
    Beth x
     
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    Well, the date is tomorrow - wish me luck I suppose. :sweat_smile:
     
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    Let us know how it goes! :]
     
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    How did the date go ?
     
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    Update: I have returned from our date! Personally I think it went well, the conversation flowed naturally and it almost felt like we knew each other already. She wants to meet up again at some point, and I want to as well. :slight_smile:
     
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    Update: I have returned from our date! Personally I think it went well, the conversation flowed naturally and it almost felt like we knew each other already. She wants to meet up again at some point, and I want to as well. :slight_smile:

    Sorry for the double post - mods, please fix this, it was glitching when I posted.
     
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    Who was the lucky guy or girl ?
     
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    We met on a dating site and became online friends elsewhere. I'm glad she wasn't a catfish.
     
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    Glad the date went well
     
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    Fantastic! Oh I really hope something wonderful blossoms out of this for you!

    Beth
     
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    Hope you got a kiss or at least a hug
     
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    I don't even think there's a right answer here. Chemistry seems to be decided fairly quickly.

    If that's how it is, a person can just be themselves without a game plan. In a few situations, a real deal breaker will come through and cause it all to unravel. Even then, if the chemistry is real, real strong, a person will push aside what they shouldn't be pushing aside or end it later than sooner.

    I think you should have no game plan. It should just be spontaneous.