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  1. FLGUY39

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    Single Dad in my 30s. Been questioning since I can remember. I don't meet the general stereotypes of the LGBT community by a long shot and don't feel I'd fit in. What I'd love to do is chat with and eventually meet someone somewhat similar to me but I don't know where to start or look as its obviously hard to do when both parties would be deep in the closet; any advice would be great. Thanks
     
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    Hello and welcome! I’m a bit new here as well, having recently come to the realization that I’m gay. I would also say that I don’t fit many of the well known gay stereotypes, but like you I’m not sure where to meet similar men, so I will be all ears to any suggestions other members have.
     
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    Hey! I'm also kind of new, and I'd also been questioning forever. Finally I figured myself out, but it takes a while. Hope you find out your identity!
     
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    Nice to meet you. Good to hear from someone in a similar situation.
     
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    So far I've come to the realization that I can emotionally be involved with women but sexually struggle...and I feel it is the opposite with men.
     
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    So maybe bisexual ?
     
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    I would say that's currently the most likely category
     
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    For me im sexaulity attracted to women and romantically men
     
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    So we are the same but reversed...lol
     
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    Im a mix of both. I'm more romantically attracted to men, but I'm equally attracted to both sexually.
     
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    So we are very similar
     
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    That kinda fits me too
     
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    Question for everyone whats your definition of romantic attraction ?
     
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    Anything above and beyond sex.....social aspects of typical relationships, snuggling, kissing in public...etc.
     
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    After I finally admitted to myself that I’m gay I was struck by how sensual and erotic I found images of men just kissing and holding one another. I’ve always found watching gay sex hot, but once I allowed myself the space to own my identity the thought and sight of men just loving one another was breathtaking.
     
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    Have you ever had sex with a man?
     
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    Yes, I have.
     
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    I haven't.....I'm assuming it was everything you hoped it would be?
     
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    It was even more than I had hoped.
     
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    My definition is dating, kissing, holding hands, cuddling, etc.
     
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