Bottoming

I'm glad you are finding your sexual groove. I wonder what the percentage is of bottoms tops. Seems like there are way more bottoms. I'd be versatile, but the only way I'd ever be able to bottom is pegging.

 

Before I accepted myself, this was the part of me I was most ashamed of. It was one thing to have these fantasies and desires, but it was another to say "I want this". But when I finally 'did it' I was at first hesitant and when I was first penetrated I was scared but then there was a point where I just 'broke' i had never experienced such mind numbing ecstasy, and when it was over, I was tired but this beautiful feeling washed over me and after that I felt grateful and it was so much stronger and intimate than anything I had ever experienced that I just couldn't feel ashamed about it anymore.

 

I prefer bottoming too. In fact, I actually refuse to top with a guy - never have, never will. I think this is somewhat part of why I'm bisexual. I enjoy sex with both men and women, but for completely different reasons. When I have sex with women, it's an opportunity to be somewhat dominate (however, I do enjoy being submissive in the bedroom with women also), controlling, and 'obviously' top (I'm open to pegging though and think it's pretty hot).

On the other hand, when I have sex with men, it's an opportunity to be more submissive, controlled, bottom, etc., which is pretty much the sole reason I enjoy sex with men. There's a very specific role I like to play and I have 0% interest in playing any other.

Hope this all made sense, haha!

 

For me, versatile is a must. I feel that both men should take turns performing each role to maximise each other's pleasure. It's sort of a deal breaker. Each to their own though.

 

Even amongst gay and bisexual men who are versatile, there seems to be a preference for bottoming and in many surveys the number of gay men who consider themselves as total 'bottoms' is 45-50% (my personal experience would have this figure even higher), so we shouldn't feel any sense of shame or embarrassment when we discover this preference for ourselves.

It's important to be honest about your preferences, especially when you are looking for a relationship with good sexual chemistry and compatibility. There is no point in saying you are versatile, when you're really not and there is certainly no point in describing yourself as a 'top' when you know otherwise. Why set yourself up for the disappointment of bedroom failure?

If you are bottoming for a guy use plenty of lube and make sure he's not going in there bare.

 

Bottoming is natural . No shame or guilt. Wether being a top or bottom we are enjoying a natural loving affectionate act. As long as both partners are consenting.
I love being a bottom and might even try being a top with the right man.

 

Love both aspects of gay sexuality. Two men sharing the most intimate connection is absolutely a beautiful, sexual, and emotion experience. Allowing another man to penetrate me is a very humbling emotional and sexual experience while at the same time I feel so empowered being able to satisfy his primal sexual pleasures. That connection between two men is so much more sensual and erotic compared to anything straight.

 

Very nicely put.

 

I can’t wait to experience this sort of connection with another man.

 

My feeling is there are more bottoms than tops.

I'm in the same boat as you as far as pegging. I had considered approaching that topic but decided against it for a variety of reasons... I do occasionally use a dildo on myself, though.

I feel like if I ever do end up in a relationship with a man that I would probably strongly prefer bottoming but would likely be willing to compromise on that if my partner also wanted to.

Largely a moot point for now.

 

While I prefer bottoming as I find it incredibly erotic and sensual I too would accommodate my partner. In my one prior relationship I was almost always bottoming but once in awhile changed things up for a little spice. Loved it.

 

It’s nice to add some spice.The thought of a hot guy ready for some yummy foreplay before going at it gets me so darn hard.

 

There is something incredibly erotic and sensual happening when two men are sexually intimate. Nothing with a woman even comes close. The arousal is through the roof, the passion and pleasure off the charts. Whether it’s making out, oral , anal or whatever I can’t get enough. I never felt that with a woman.

 

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I could not agree with you more!! Just the thought is so erotic and arousing and wonderful and natural.

 

Passionately kissing a man makes me surrender any inhibitions very quickly…

 

Yum

 

It’s so wonderful being queer. I love men!

 

So so true! With the right man I have no inhibitions whatsoever. With women when I was able to become aroused I had inhibition galore.

 

Of course you did! So did I. We are gay men. Yay!!!