Bisexual People : When Should We Tell Our Partners We're Bi?

Once I knew, I told people I was into upfront that I'm bi. I've been both rejected and accepted after doing so. It's better to do it early on before anything serious develops I've found, because if that's going to be a problem they can leave and you can move on with your life a lot easier. One time that rejection happened between a close friend and I who had a crush on each other, and that sucked. I got over it a lot easier though because I told him immediately after we knew the feelings were mutual (wouldn't have worked out anyway because he's straight and I figured out I'm a trans guy after that). Now with my girlfriend I got asked about how long I've known, how I got outed and went back in the closet, how many guys and girls I've dated, and we talked about celebrity crushes (she's also bi). It can be a little nerve wracking but either way it will make your life easier in the long run.

 

Hello, @gasqueman! I think once you know for sure he's interested in taking the next step, it would be a good time to disclose your bisexuality. Or even soon after you start dating would be all right, I think, so long as you don't put it off too long. Like @TinyWerewolf said, you don't want to drop it once things get serious because then it could cause hurt on both sides.

It's also important to make sure the lines of communication between you are open: so if he has any questions or concerns, you can answer and assuage them respectively. I know all of this is easier said than done, of course, but I think offering honesty from the start will be a major point in your favour.

If/when you do it, I hope it goes well!

 

If you don't want to come out yet don't feel pressured to, that's just my experience with this scenario. You get to be the one who decides what's best for you to do at the end of the day. He may have questions if you do though, just so you know.

 

You're welcome. I agree with that, coming out to your partner at some point is important whether straight or LGBTQIA+. I wish you the best of luck!

 

@gasqueman First, I hope you are doing well.

You should tell this person as soon as possible, regardless if he supports the Community or not. Even if he might say, he is fine with it, you might find out he doesn't even know what Bisexual means, so you'll be the one in charge to educate him.

In my experience, there are very, very few heterosexuals that don't believe on at least one or two Bisexual myths. Perhaps my age is showing here and younger generations might be more accepting / well informed.

On the other hand, he might be truly understanding and not trying to change you. This is capital if you are looking for a future proof relationship, one in which both parties are free to talk openly to each other. Love is about respecting and loving the other for who she or he really is, not 'in spite of'.

Hope it goes well. Feel free to keep us posted if you want to.