Have you ever been attracted to someone you weren’t suppose to be?

Hello. Can you elaborate on what you mean about it not being normal? I'm not sure if you mean it isn't normal to be attracted to other women, despite the fact that you just got out of a long-term relationship with one, or if you feel it's wrong to be attracted to your ex girlfriend's sister.

As to the disparity between your thoughts about this sister vs. your feelings when you're around her, I'm of two minds. It's either you do have some attraction to her, but you're so deep in denial you've suppressed it when you're around her (shame likely being the culprit), or conversely, you merely like the idea of her but have no actual attraction to her.

Regarding your fears of sexually transmitted diseases, that's understandable--but there are plenty of ways to enjoy sexual exploration safely. You should check the physical and sexual health sub-forum; there might be some tips about how to engage in safe sexual practices there, if/when you're ready to explore another relationship.

 

I wouldn't say it's abnormal, though. Do you mean it makes you feel guilty because of your relationship? I imagine this must be the case, because their familial relationship aside, there's actually nothing wrong with your feelings. It's understandable if you don't want to pursue anything with her, out of respect for your ex or perhaps the fact that the sister herself isn't attracted to you/doesn't bear same-sex attraction. But otherwise, try not to feel about potential feelings for her; you can't help how you feel. Only how you act.

 

It's chemistry. And it isn't something we can control. Yes it happens more than I'd prefer and it's very awkward for both people involved.

 

This is so true. It has happened to me and it's uncomfortable. I think it's more uncomfortable for the other person, since I think they're probably totally straight, and I don't think they like it. It doesn't happen often. I feel a little bad about making someone uncomfortable.

If the attention and interest is directed toward me, I usually laugh it off or act indifferent, like I didn't notice it. It's when it becomes persistent that I start to get flustered because I then start thinking of how to get the situation to fade away.