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*advice please* sex, relationships

Discussion in 'Family, Friends, and Relationships' started by Ayla22x, Oct 28, 2021.

  1. Ayla22x

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    So, I was at the hospital yesterday and i arrived by ambulance, i saw this cute guy infront of me i took a liking towards him and whenever i looked up he was non stop looking at me. later that night, he gave me a note and it had his phone number on, and for some daft reasons i started having mixed sexual feelings inside. I texted him and we had a conversation and it was lovely but then it got sexual, is that normal? due to being raped i did not want to rush into things but is that normal i liked him? it turned out he was trans and that made me like him more and i think i am in love... ahhhh
    We spoke and i felt like maybe i can love someone, i dont have to feel like oh due to being raped that i wont ever find someone who will love me or so and so. I am so happy for myself but i don't know if it is weird i took a liking to him? He, was explaining why he took a liking to me and it made my hospital stay so much better and i just felt happy and i am so scared to open up to him but he said he would not judged me for anything i tell him so is that a good thing or am i going silly? I am just wanting advice on is it normal to feel butterfly's which indicate sexual feelings your both feeling towards each other is that normal? advice please. it wasnt straight away i liked him but i was just in love as soon as we locked eyes i felt something there but is it weird we both straight away thought we are very attracted not only in a relationship way but also a sexual way? is it strange is was at a hospital we started liking each other and that we took a liking? I am so stuck ahhhh
     
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    I would recommend a healthy amount of caution, im no professional but in my experience "love" isnt something that happens that fast, from the sounds of it you just met a guy and you just hit it off. There isnt anything inherently wrong with that at all, but i would recommend not rushing things. If it was me i would be very on edge if my first conversation with someone turned sexual like that. Perhaps im just a more reserved person than you (which is fine, everyone is different). Feeling those butterflies is perfectly normal and youre not silly, you are allowed to like whoever you want. Also people meet each other in all sorts of places, a hospital isnt that weird if you ask me, ive spent a good three quarters of my life in and out of hospitals and ive met lots of people.

    In the end i cant tell you exactly what to do in any particular situation, you just have to make a judgement call. But first and foremost the most important thing is your safety. If it were me id maybe see about going on a date somewhere like a shopping centre, something casual but where there are still people around if something goes terribly wrong, the fact you said it went sexual so fast bothers me somewhat. I dunno as long ad you are safe and comfortable then its really up to you.

    Sorry thats probably not what you wanted to hear but i had to be honest. Good luck, im probably just being paranoid haha
     
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    hey, he was making messages saying he was wanting it to be sexual straight away and that is why i agreed yk? its okay good to be hones
     
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    I agree with @tidalpool127. It's not good to rush into this. It's better to be cautious and get to know the person first. I just am scared, that you might get hurt. Stay safe.
     
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    it wasnt tidal pool... he is seeming he only wants to get into sexual content
     
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    Well im not that kind of person (not that there is anything wrong with it) so that doesnt really appeal to me, but you do you boo just be safe!!!
     
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    Sorry I put in the wrong name. Meant to say @GazesToClouds. But yeah it's up to you and how you feel about it, just look out for yourself, okay.
     
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    thank you :slight_smile: i wont agree i dont want to it isnt safe
     
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    If you really like him maybe just go out for a coffee date to actually find out if you and he actually have things in common, get to know him a bit then if you are comfortable with who he is then perhaps escalate the relationship. I just think its a better idea to know someone before you have sex with them. Who knows maybe they are a really sweet person whos just pretty horny, you never know unless you get to know them a bit
     
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    i will be careful due to being previously raped i have always been weary so i wll see how it goes
     
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    Im surprised and impressed you can speak so openly about such an experience, ive only met one other person who had been sexually assaulted and they were very closed about it. You must be very brave to have gone through such an awful experience and come out so confident
     
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    i have learnt not to let it get me down. i lost my little girl i am 20 and it hurt me but i am ok for now. your super nice. i been abused 5 times and it hurts still but i am tough i got this little cutie with me
     
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    awww thats a very cute dog
     
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    True. I have met a few people, who had been assaulted and they openly told me about it and it was surprising, but I'm glad they were comfortable enough with me to talk about it.

    And yes. You are tough and you got this. He is a super cute dog.
     
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    :slight_smile: he is keeping me by
     
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    deserves all the pats for being such a good boy
     
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    lol haha :slight_smile: we can talk on ur profile :slight_smile:
     
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    This is so cute! I'd say it's completely normal to feel butterflies for someone, and sometimes they develop over time. The guy I'm going out with now, I didn't feel much attraction to him at first but we've chatted lots and bonded and now I feel butterflies every time I see him.
     
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    aww that seems so cute :slight_smile: thank you x