I am a recently out to myself and some people bisexual. In the last year, I have come to terms with myself in my orientation. Nowadays this does not seem as big a deal as it was when I was growing up, especially during my formative years. I am an older guy, born in the summer of '69... Some of my generation may get the reference. I am a Navy veteran, I say this because a lot of my personality is in line with being a submariner. You know, sarcasm with little or no filtration. Doesn't mean I am an asshole.... well not a complete asshole. I do try not to be personally upsetting and truly care for my fellow human beings. I am married. My wife does not know, but we have had some conversations and I am REALLY close to coming out to her. It is a tricky situation due to physical and mental issues with her. She has a pituitary tumor that was mostly removed, then irradiated, so it is no linger growing. That being said there is still a mass on her pituitary and that causes hormonal imbalances, which include a nearly 24/7 low grade headache that spikes to migraine if she is over stimulated, post menopausal hot flashes, lack of sex drive, emotional, cognitive, and memory issues. I only share this, so there is an understanding of why I have to be careful coming out to her, to prevent any more emotional stress, which equates to more emotional stress on me. Anyway, I am here looking for new places to share, support, and be supported. One of the places I frequented is gone now and I have been looking for some time for a new place that isn't a raunchy hookup place. Not saying anything against that. I know where to find that when and if I want, but I also need a place for support that is real. Hopefully this is one of those places.
Hi, welcome to EC, it’s really cool here. I am also bi, and a bit older, I have always known i am bi, but still did the conventional married to a man thing. I love him very much, I’m out to him, and he knows I’ll love him forever, he is the chosen one, but I’d also like a relationship with a woman. It’s really hard to push down those feelings isn’t it?
Welcome to EC. Born in '87, but I get the reference. (Used to love that song). I'm sorry you're in such a delicate situation where coming out to your wife might not be possible with her health issues, but I hope a day comes when you can (and above all, that it's well received if/when you do). Fellow bisexual here, as well. Hope you find tons of people to talk to and allow you to be your authentic self.
Welcome to EC! I hope you can come out to her one day and it goes well. EC is a great place, if you look for support.
Isbjorn.....Hello and a great big LGBTQIA+ welcome to Empty Closets! There are a number of sub-forums here on EC...why don't you check them out and then feel free to join in the conversations! This is a community of loving, caring and very supportive people and we will do our best to help you blend into the community. You can ask questions in any of the Sub-forums by creating a new thread or by joining in a conversation-thread that is already going. You can also post a message on anyone's Profile Page after you have made at least ten posts yourself. If you have a question that is somewhat private you can always send a Private Message to any Staff Member. Normally Private Messages can only be exchanged between two Full Members, but a PM to a Staff Member is an exception. We are so glad that you have found us here on Empty Closets! .....David
