Hi I am new to this. I am in my late 30’s, a wife to a man and have two children. I have had suspicions since I was 14 that I fancied women, but thought it was just a phase and my brother came out so I felt I couldn’t as well. It was different 20 odd years ago to today. I have finally realised that I am gay, I like women and find no attraction to men. I need a friend. Anyone who can relate?
Hi Mpoppins, welcome to Empty closets, you’ll like it here, it’s really friendly and lots of people who have been through something similar. I’m not in the same situation exactly, I’m bi, in a straight relationship with a man and have two beautiful children. I often have strong feelings of attraction to women, and feel a bit trapped and unable to do anything about it. Does your partner know, or are you out to anyone at all? Ingver
MPoppins.....Hello and a great big LGBTQIA+ welcome to Empty Closets! There is a sub-forum here titled “Sexual Orientation” if you post there I think you’ll find people who will understand what you are dealing with. This is a community of loving, caring and very supportive people and we will do our best to help you blend into the community. You can ask questions in any of the Sub-forums by creating a new thread or by joining in a conversation-thread that is already going. You can also post a message on anyone's Profile Page after you have made at least ten posts yourself. If you have a question that is somewhat private you can always send a Private Message to any Staff Member. Normally Private Messages can only be exchanged between two Full Members, but a PM to a Staff Member is an exception. We are so glad that you have found us here on Empty Closets! .....David
Welcome to EC. As other’s have said, you’re not alone. I was in my late twenties, in a long term heterosexual relationship with a child, when I realised that I was a lesbian. I found EC to be hugely helpful in processing that and finding a way forward. I hope that you find the support that you’re looking for here too.
Hey there, I'm in pretty much exactly the same Position as you; married, one child already and one on the way, and I am living this 'lie' when I am actually gay it's so so so hard isn't it
hi welcome! same situation here.... I'm in my 40s, 17yrsmarried with two children and now I realize I am a bi.. @Jay91 yeah, it is so hard, hiding from the closet.. living a lie.
It takes a lot of courage to admit to yourself who you really are. I think you are all very brave. I hope you find the support and kindness you deserve here at EC xx
Yes there are many of us here who relate to this! I myself am 40 with 3 kids, have been married to a man and was most recently with a man for 5 years, living together for 1 year, and realized that I'm not bi as I thought I was -- I was with men for all the wrong reasons, but my body only responds to women. I'm out to everyone (though remaining single while I continue to figure myself out and heal from 40 years of forcing myself to act in a way untrue to my nature). We're here for you!
My gosh I can relate to your words so much ! I read your words and it's like I could have wrote them. Your so brave and a huge huge respect to you for been able to do this!
I'm living the dream haha! In all seriousness I could be better, but, tomorrow will be a better day and all that jazz..I'm around if you ever fancy a natter?
Ah bless you. Sorry to hear today's not good. Yes send me a message on my wall anytime and we can chat x hope your okay
