I'm Female in 20s. Always dated men and I find them to be wonderful human beings! Super happy to be with the right man. On the other hand, for as long as I can remember, I've always found some women to be super hot and I get turned on both sexually and emotionally. I've had multiple female crushes and felt strong emotional connection with a couple. However, I've never really been with a woman before. Though I'd be happy to be with a worthy woman. But I never have. The whole situation leaves me wondering a little bit.
do you find that you can fantasise about both? or do you find that you’re fantasise are almost exclusively one way?
I just kinda thought that being actually with a woman would be what 'seals the deal'. Kind of like what makes it 'official'.
Yes, from the information you have provided, there is a strong probability that you are indeed bisexual. Although, only you can determine what your sexual orientation is. I suggest you give yourself time and don't rush to label yourself right away.
But thanks for your response and input. It's nice to get an outside opinion (that is besides my thoughts)
Tell me about it. I guess I (we all) just have to internalize it slowly and surely. No rush. I just wonder though what it would be like to be with a female. . Maybe being actually with one might make me realize that it was all just.... I don't know....
I definitely do agree that having a same-sex experience/relationship can certainly help one better understand their sexuality and whether or not they're gay, lesbian, bisexual, etc. but that it isn't required. Also keep in mind that even straight people have bad sexual experiences. Considering this, if you don't enjoy your first same-sex experience, it doesn't necessarily mean you aren't bisexual. It might just mean that you had a bad sexual experience, like a lot of people have, regardless of their sexual orientation.
Makes a TONNE of sense. I'll definitely be keeping this in mind. Am actually super excited for when the day comes (if ever). Coz I've been through that thought process, I guess with my minimal experience, and it's building up to becoming one of the ultimate experiences I'd be most looking forward to.
In a galaxy far away and long ago... As a kid I allready "knew" my feelings weren't solely hetero. So I tried having sex with a man twice. Both times got so completely wasted beforehand, I blacked out both times. So no, no actual experience so far. Back then I wasn't really aware of anything relating to feelings though so now I understand these guys just weren't the right ones. I never have been aware of how important intimicay and trust are to me. Untill now, and then all of a sudden the pieces fit. Like all on 'm. So, to answer your question - the wondering is, in mhy case, allready for over 30 years there. The real attempt and beginning to udnerstand though, is only about half a year old. I haven't been the brightest student so far in this matter
Wow! Although I guess it's better to explore this whole situation when you have acquired a clearer understanding of yourself as a person, knowing what's important and fundamental to you, as opposed to how it was 'in a galaxy far away and long ago' . I guess a mental clarity to begin with kind of makes things a slight bit better.?
well think about it like this, straight people are straight before they actually get with someone, so why shouldn’t it work any other way?
Hi, I had myself as 100% straight heterosexual, despite people around me suggesting otherwise. Then Bam I had a same sex experience with my best straight friend and find myself here 18 Months later trying to figure my whole back story out, it’s probably always been there but so repressed even I didn’t know. Now I can’t actually imagine being with a man again, I did try and it was so meh. The intimacy and connection I had in those experiences ( 5 occasions), was so intense so real, and something I just didn’t know could exist. I don’t know if that’s because I loved her in a deeper level or if it’s because she was female, probably both. But now I know just how right it felt I don’t think I can go back to a straight life. Currently can’t imagine it. And that’s ok, I just want to love and be loved and be happy so if that’s with a Woman so be it. Men were always a bit of a disappointment in the bedroom. Just thought I’d share as I had the experience before the realisation!
Sounds like a pretty even split but are the same sorts of fantasies and which are more intense? I consider myself about 80% gay, I guess I could have sex with a woman (I had girlfriends in the past) but the intensity of desire is nowhere close to what I have experienced fantasizing about guys. I agree here. But for some of us a label was not restricting but became a way of acceptance. A lot of men who thought they might be bi or held on to some idea of attraction to women have found their attraction entirely fades and in fact the idea of sex with women goes from eh or neutral to unappealing.
