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My partner passed away two weeks ago

Discussion in 'LGBT Later in Life' started by baristajedi, Apr 16, 2021.

  1. chicodeoro

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    Hey Baristajedi, great to hear from you.

    I lost my partner last year so I know all too well how you are feeling. These days are unspeakably awful and sometimes the pain feels all-consuming, doesn't it? But things won't be this bad forever. It's a cliche, but it's true - grief comes in waves and after a while you get more adept at surfing those waves and, well...just coping.

    One big question - are you getting the support you need from your friends, family and real life support network? For me, that was so so crucial. They rallied around and made sure I was ok and I owe my life and my sanity to them.

    Sending out love and strength to you, my friend. You will get through this.

    Beth x
     
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    I’m so sorry for your loss too. How are you doing?

    I do have beautiful wonderful people around me offering and giving me support, but I find myself pushing people away a lot of the time… I’m trying to let people in. It’s hard for me for some reason to do that.

     
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    I am glad that you do have people that are supporting you. It is ok for this to be a struggle, remember that it has only been about two months. I myself was a wreck for over two years. Do try to let them in and help you but also do not feel bad that it is difficult for you to let them in.