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Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by Sadness, Mar 16, 2021.

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  1. Sadness

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    I start to think that i actually get a little sexual responses to gay porn, or gay fantasies. I dont know if they are groinals driven by anxiety or just sexual responses(a little arousal), because i feel sometimes a very strong feeling in my groin area but i cant stay hard, if i manage to get hard because normally i cant get.

    So i wonder, should i label this sexual responses to some kind if bissexuality? Or it is just normal to have those feelings. It would be very easy to understand if i just got hard and very aroused, but in reality even with this strong feeling, and tingling and movements, i cant stay hard, so i dont know how should i label this, or if i should label it.
     
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    Ok so now i just went back to the gay hentai i reading before and i almost got a full erection.

    Well dont know nothing anymore lol
     
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    It is OCD, you keep posting stuff and it always comes back to the fact that you have OCD. You have been on your medications less than a month, you need to let them work. Check with your psychiatrist about whether or not you need a medication adjustment or if you can start talk therapy with it so that you can learn to deal with the OCD. Continuing to check and recheck is not going to give you any answers, you have OCD.
     
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    Dear Sadness,

    Watching you torture yourself over and over again is truly disheartening. Please take the advice from @QuietPeace and @Chip and work with your doctor on your OCD.
     
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    But i dont get it, why would i get some sexual responses, or even some arousals for gay porn and sometime gay fantasies? Wouldnt this mean that i actually have some sexual attraction to same sex? I cant see how would anxiety give me some erections and some feelings in my penis, but the fact that i cant stay hard and ejaculate with these feelings. I dont know whats happening, it would be so much easier if i was just gay, i would probably stop rationalizing so much, i would live such a good life. But i just cant, i try not to think about it, whatever if i am gay or not, but shit i keep seeing gay porn to test, and those times when i get this strong reactions and even erection, i hate ocd i hate this why is so complicated
     
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    But i talketo to my psychiatris, he said that it will took some time to my medication to work properly, and he said that i could be experiencing some fear, anxiety, and ocd. But i really dont understand why i have this sexual feelings if its not same sex attraction
     
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    You have this fantasy that being gay is easy, it is not easy anywhere in the world and certainly not in the USA. Be who you are, it will not be easy but it will be easier than trying to be someone who you are not (I tried to be someone that I am not and it nearly killed me and severely harmed those around me)

    "Wherever you go, there you are" - Unknown. If you could magically change and actually be homosexual that would not change who you are and you would still have the problems that you have right now.

    Listen to your psychiatrist, he is a professional and knows what he is talking about. Let the medication work. They are not sexual feelings, they are anxiety driven by your OCD. I am pretty sure that I have shared this with you but try watching it again. A physical reaction does not necessarily mean that you have any real sexual desire. This talk shows that a physical response does not prove anything.
    https://www.ted.com/talks/emily_nagoski_the_truth_about_unwanted_arousal#t-412983
     
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    Sorry i didnt mean to say that, what i said is that it would be easier for me to just be gay, because i would stop with this obsession and would enjoy my life back.

    I know he is a professional, but i am afraid that i am lying to myself, i know he said all that and stuff but im still very afraid, today i masturbated to gay hentai as i said earlier and becaude of my masturbation, now if i look to gay hentai, the feeling is stronger than before, almost like i would get erect instantly, and it wasnt like that before i tried masturbating, i dont know if what i am experiencing is just some anxiety driven arousal, or arousal non-concordance as the video said(also great video thanks for sharing) because os so strong, tge feeking sometimes is stronger than what i feel with woman, like i could get erect easier with the gay porn video than the woman, but in fact i never managed to get fully erect, and after today i can just by looking almost, i dont know what i did, if its normal just because i masturbated too much to this gay hentai, or if i indeed enjoy it, the fact is that it wasnt like that.

    So this erection thing is really messing me up, i know porn doesnt mean nothing, but why all of sudden i would feel so very aroused by it, i sometimes dont even feel anxiety too i think, is just the strong feeling that makes me get kind hard or hard.

    I dont know if i am just lying that these arousal are just driven by anxiety, it feels genuine. But i will stop watching gay porn i promisse
     
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    *All of this* is your OCD. Depending on how long you've been on the medication, you may need to have your dosage adjusted, or be on a different medication.

    I'm closing this thread as it won't do any good to keep going in circles.
     
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