Ok, so a bit of background. I'm a married straight guy who has, in the past, experimented with a guy although it was quite unfulfilling and confusing. Lately I've been feeling attracted to guys but without wanting to actually sleep with them. Like I'll really take notice of a gorgeous guy and maybe think of them naked but without any sexual contact element if that makes sense? Was wondering if anyone has ever been in a similar position and could give advice. Am I bisexual? Pansexual? Or just curious? My wife knows, she's encouraged me to speak to people to find out what it is I'm feeling Thanks in advance
I had the same thoughts before I admitted to myself that I'm gay. What I found is that feeling just kept getting stronger and stronger along with the sexual fantasies. I refuse to fight it and I love where I'm at.
I'm still totally attracted to women though, so I wouldn't say I was gay. I also don't think.I've got any urge to act on it physically but to fantasise about it is quite a turn on. This is the most messed up my head has been.
I would say you're leaning towards BI but I think you may be just curious at this point. I wouldn't be surprised if you start acting upon some of those thoughts. I wish I could talk with a gorgeous guy but i trip over my tongue all the time.
I honestly don't think I could act on them, would feel too much like cheating to me. As long as I can feel a bit more comfortable about knowing what my feelings are is good enough for me right now. Appreciate the help
Your feelings are exactly that — YOUR feelings. Don’t stumble over what or who your feelings are about, what or who your feelings are supposed to be about. Accept them as they come, be mindful as they go. When and if the right time, the right place, and the right person enters your life, you will know it and can act accordingly.
