So I've been seeing a therapist for a while now, and I'm already out to a couple of people close to me, and I've been working up the courage to face the final boss so to speak, telling my parents I'm transgender, that I'm a girl. I want to thank those on here that gave me advice, and I'll try to update you all on how it goes today.
Well I did it, and results are mixed, my parents are religious conservatives and so they're not taking the news very easily. Im going to try to have a group session with my therapist to hopefully help them out, they are at least trying to understand. Currently they're upset but not threatening to kick me out.
Well not kicking you out is better than what i had, so count it as a small victory and keep all small victories as they help that you dont give up
So its been a bit of time, still have a lot to do in terms of helping them come to terms with it, they dont accept me as a woman but they do want to try to support me, now if that means they would help me with physical transition or not is not clear, but to their credit they do seem to care. Ive also started making plans on getting my own place depending on how this all goes, if things turn sour I'll need a backup plan. Only problem right now is my job doesnt pay enough for me to afford rent+food+healthcare. I could probably barely afford rent and some basic needs, but wouldnt have enough for anything else. I'm thinking about changing jobs to make more money but there arent a ton of well paying jobs that arent warehouse work, I used to work in a warehouse and never again, that was another low point for me. Target looks good but it seems getting a full time position there is easier said than done and I'll need consistent pay to afford rent every month.
This all sounds positive, Xey. You've got plans. Your parents haven't thrown you out and by the sounds of it just need time to get their heads round it. And you've done it - you've told them you're a girl. I've not had to do that - both of my parents died some time ago - but it must be the most difficult part to negotiate in that whole long drawn process that is coming out. You should feel very proud. Beth
Thank you, and despite all the drama thats gone on since, I do feel better about the whole situation. Theres still a lot of stuff to work out, and I know the next few years aren't going to be easy, and it's still to be seen if my extended family is going to be burning bridges, But in the end despite my dysphoria, doing all this is helping with accepting myself, for a long time I would go into denial, out of fear of what would happen if I let people see the real me, a fear I'm sure many here can relate with. But even with the potential consequences I was tired of living in fear, tired of living a lie, I have my life ahead of me and I want to live it, no matter what some people will say to me, it's still all very scary, but it's less scary than living as someone I'm not.
Good for you. You are so strong. Things get so much easier as you go. It might be hard for a while, but it is so worth it in the end. You have a bright future ahead of you. If you ever need some one to talk to, just feel free to message me.
