Hi everyone. I'm 25(F?), and I've been questioning my gender on and off for a couple of years. I'm completely out as a lesbian, and some people know I ID'd as demigirl, but something about that doesn't feel right. I haven't hated living as a female, but something has always felt off. Idk how else to explain it. When I came out as lesbian, I cut my hair short and started dressing more masc. I felt at home, like it was what I was supposed to be doing all along, but stopped because of comments from my family. I gave chest binding a try a few days ago out of curiosity, and it felt so good in a way I don't even know how to describe. I know it's not entirely accurate, but I used FaceApp to see what I'd potentially look like as a guy, and wanted to cry happy tears. I thought, "yes, that's right". I'm not really sure where to go from here, or if it's nothing and I'm just being dramatic. Maybe I'm really just a masculine lesbian and I should forget about all of this. Idk, I'm just very confused right now.
If you're questioning your gender, the best thing you can do right now is to experiment. If you have supportive friends or family who you feel comfortable experimenting with, you could ask them to call you a different name and pronouns. You can start there and see how it feels to be referred to as a guy. Other things you can try if you haven't already is start getting more masculine clothes as well. I want to add that if you're able to, I highly recommend seeking a therapist, they'll also help you to organize your thoughts.
Hey, I just came upon your thread, I'm in the same position as you. I'm a lesbian, completely out have been since being young. I've always known something isn't right, I've always felt different. I don't fully like my chest however for me it's more I really wish I had a *cough* you know what. I'm really at a crossroads in my life where I know I need to face what is really going on in my head but I'm so scared. So yeah, I thought I would look around to meet people in the same position as me, people who need help to understand, as I do, and hope to make more sense of something that is so fricking confusing and hard! I hope you don't mind me reaching out. I wanted to sign off using my name but I don't know what that is anymore!
That sounds a lot like me some years ago. I stuffed some small towels down my shirt, though. You can always play around and experiment with different names you might like. And if you change your mind about that name, you can always try another name. Try this thread, for example
Couldn't have said it better myself. Just try things out. See how you feel using different pronouns. Experiment with looks. Have fun with it. Remember, it's okay to ask explore your identity. It's healthy in fact. Best wishes.
