Why do people even care about and judge someone's sexuality?

I don't get the amount of negativity that some people harbor toward sexual minorities' and the nature of their sexuality. So what if a person has an attraction to a person of their own gender? If two people have sex, and they are adults who consented to it, what is the big deal?

Society judges men more harshly. It has gotten better but there's a long way to go. If someone isn't religious, I don't understand what threatens them. Some people go nuts. If they're religious, I don't understand why it's as evil as they make it out to be. There are far more evil things than the friction of skin between two people.

The reactions that cis-gendered men get are all over the map, if they are gay or bi. Some people will cut them slack for being masculine 'enough.' Some will kid with them that they didn't think they did that sort of stuff. Some will outright turn on them.

If it's affectional, it's not anyone's concern. If it's sexual, it's about pleasure that comes from skin, nerve endings, erogenous zones. Why do people even care? I don't get why this topic is such a big deal to people who it doesn't affect.

 

I never thought about it this way. It makes sense, though. I always surmised that people (mostly men) who weren't too attached to religion found it distasteful and didn't understand it or want to understand it. Religious people in some congregations think of it as a serious wrongdoing. It makes me laugh.

The power part might be about their looking at being in a marriage or a relationship and having children as power. That belonging to all the things they belong to could be about power. A good number of companies have gotten better at dealing with diversity. Some are still stuck in the mud. Like you said, it's one more thing to lord over someone with.

Yes to all of this. We've had some incidents here where there has been violence at sporting events over different loyalties that have ended tragically. I had my therapy session this week and it got a little sticky over this. I mentioned that most people let people who are very similar into their circles. The therapist believed that it might not be as true as I make it out to be. Clones hanging around together is very common. If you look and listen for a while, you might see how this might go with new people you meet. You then have the option of moving forward or backing away. A person has to be right there to feel things out.

 

They fear things they were taught to fear or be repelled by. My parents never brought up sex when I was real young. Nothing good said about it. Nothing bad said about it. My first thoughts I recall about people having any kind of sex was that it was no big deal. It must feel good to them. It was later based on listening to what kids in school and religious figureheads said that made it "seem" wrong. But it never seemed that wrong. I think that they were a little too hot headed about the subject and it didn't make much sense to me.

One company I worked for had a real problem of a head guy who had a wife and a lot of kids. We had gone to a meeting out of the office. We then had a group of people in the conference room talking about that meeting back at the office and what we needed to do. One man at the meeting out of the office had some peculiar ways about him and pinged a little bit. During the meeting back in the office, when his name came up and someone was going to say what he was seeking, our head guy blurted out, "That homo." Maybe our head guy was a head guy after all.

 

I can see this viewpoint but at the same time I find it to be slightly unusual how some males and females fawn over very attractive members of the same sex - to hang around them, to give them a job, etc. Men won't talk about it but some women will go on and on about how attractive their new woman friend is. And these women are supposedly straight.

Sex has some big androgynous aspects - shoulders are shoulders, arms are arms, legs are legs, necks are necks, etc. Most of the time, that's what you're in contact with. I know I see it that way. But most people don't, I suppose. I'm sure we have seen in TV or a movie where they quickly pan over someone's uncovered back and you quickly took notice. You then get a big surprise when you learn that it's a man instead of a woman or a woman instead of a man. That's just one example.