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Discussion in 'Physical & Sexual Health' started by Lovri, Nov 7, 2020.

  1. Lovri

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    I am curious, is this a real phonomenon or just something I made up?

    Lately I was insecure about my relationship with girls. So to make sure I decided to watch lesbian porn. I noticed I got hard, but it didn't seem as I was actually horny. As if I was horny only physically and not psyhically... Is this is a real thing? Do straight guys exprience same when they watch gay porn?? Is this a natural body response (with any kind of sexual activity)?
     
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    It is absolutely possible to be aroused physically without being really interested in someone psychically (I think that is what you mean) by which I assume you mean that you are really interested in a relationship or in sex with said person. (I have a TED talk video which can answer this but before I can post it I need to check with admins). Porn is by design exciting so reacting to it is natural, I personally do not think that what porn a person is interested in demonstrates anything certain about their orientation.
     
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    Thank you, now I feel much more certain. Please link the TED if you can, I would gladly watch it!
     
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    First, QuietPeace, thank you for the link. The TED Talk was great and very important.

    Second, Lovri, I too have experienced "arousal nonconcordance" when I've seen lesbian porn incidentally. The first time I saw it, I was confused, but I rationalized that I was responding to the pleasure of the performers, and I never sought out lesbian porn. Luckily, I didn't question my orientation.