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Discussion in 'Physical & Sexual Health' started by Javy, Nov 2, 2020.

  1. Javy

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    *Sharing on here bc I really don't have anyone to talk to about these things.*

    So I've been experimenting with toys for the first time and all I can say is wow. The first toy I purchased was a prostate probe and that was ok. I followed the advice given on here to start small. Then I went and got a dildo and man that thing had my toes curling.

    So with that being said, Now I want the real thing but it makes me nervous. I never had a b/f before. I'm really not sure how I feel about it. Not 100% confident about the idea of it. My mind is like is this just for sex or do I really want to establish a monogamous relationship with a guy?
     
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    Great questions. Are you the kind of person who sees physical connection as a outgrowth of a loving, trusting relationship? Does a relationship have to be monogamous for you to feel safe (or at least not jealous)?

    I see you broke up with your girlfriend not long ago, after a long while together, and then dove into church-going, so maybe you're raised with expectations about monogamy. I'm that way too, but I totally accept there are other paths to figuring out things doing other ways of dating/relationships. Is your question of "Is this just for sex" vs. "do I really want... a monogamous relationship with a guy?" fraught with "shoulds" from church?

    Glad you have EC to talk about these things. If you don't get many replies, you might try the Later in Life subforum too.
     
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    Thank you for your response. To be quiet honest, it doesn't have to be monogamous. I guess I'm more worried about being safe. I'm more worried about std's and now covid. I was trying to find answers via the church but i kinda let that go.
     
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    Using a dildo turned me on so bad I want the real deal now!
     
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