how did you start your transition

I haven't started at all yet and I'm kinda nervous.
I think I'm starting this year???
Stuff's weird lately.

So I don't have anything interesting to say, but I hope it all goes well for you! <3

 

1984 September, moved out of my parents home and got a job several hundred miles away.
1985 came out to a friend and started looking for a therapist in November.
1986 January started therapy, about 3 month later she signed for me to start hormones which I did and by June I got a letter from her and went full time at work. About April or so I started electrolysis which lasted for years. (this process normally takes longer)

 

Sometimes people surprise you. My family rejecting me was no surprise but I was shocked at how supportive the company and my coworkers were. If your company is large enough to have an HR department you could approach them and see what the policies might be. If they are not supportive you could then move someplace else. I lived in a very small town at one point and it was better there than in a larger city where I later moved (most people get worse treatment in smaller towns though)

 

I don't feel like I've started my transition properly at all. I'm out to about 15, maybe 16 people and present as female to them when they have visited my house, but other than that it's all yet to start.

I've only just started therapy. The plan is to reach a point when my life is a little more settled, perhaps when we're on the other side of Covid (Spring 2021?) and then begin socially transitioning. It's going to be a long process. But then, it is for everyone.

Beth

 

I started with clothes and thought I was nonbinary and this is what I told others. Then I realised that I was a guy and came out about that and changed style accordingly. The name and pronouns part was rather... the circle of people who I ask for that expanded very gradually, spanning over a few years.

 

Do you want sugary or ht ? I don't

 

I have never been wealthy or even moderately well off. I have never been able to afford vaginoplasty but I have managed to stay on hormones for 30+ years. It is not that expensive, getting it arranged in the first place is the most difficult part.

 

I 'started' by just being a 'feminine' guy. It certainly made it easier. I grew my hair out for a couple years, wore eyeliner and nailpolish etc. Nobody questioned it because they thought I was just an 'emo kid' (though at that time I didn't know i was trans yet, these were just my 'personal style')

Eventually i gradiated to wearing feminine clothes, I never had much of a chance to wear them as a teenager because my school had uniforms but outside of school i always wore skinny jeans and the like. Again nobody questioned it because they thought i was just emo or gay. When i finally started wearing dresses and skirts and other 'women only' clothes, nobody gave me any trouble for it becuase they "all saw it coming" due to my lifetime of gender non conformity.

The rest was a breeze: announce new name and pronouns, start HRT, the usual stuff.

 

Depending on your age/situation you might be able to pull off something like this if you just want to 'ease in to' transition, but i don't know how plausible it would be for most people who are adults or don't want to wait :/

(sorry for double post, it didn't let me edit my first post xd)

 

I don't have any advice on reduceing the shock of coming out , but as for how to respond to peoples questions, a common response to those types of questions "are you then into guys now?" etc is "no, i am the exactly the same person you always knew. nothing has changed about me, except i'm a woman now." or sometimes a simple explanation will do, something like "not all transwoman are into guys, just like not all (cis) women are into guys" something like that usually works. Or, you don't have to answer their questions if you don't want, you can simple say "Is it your business? / It's none of your business" and move on

 

Um, I personally don’t mind it, but people assume you are straight as whatever gender you present. So i remember coming out as bi as a girl, i mean, i came out about both things at the same time, but I didn’t tell everybody that I’m a dude right away. It kind of did require explaining that I’m into women, it wasn’t the default. Now people tend to assume that I will also be straight, only into women. Which I don’t usually mind. They ask me if I have a girlfriend or which actresses I fancy and the such. I do like guys and it does require coming out, but I don’t usually feel the need to. I will casually mention that I find a dude attractive but that’s all. Or will express intrest in a guy that I like. Maybe I felt like I needed to come out as bisexual all the time when I was perceived as a girl, because men’s and women’s sexualities differ and that was really my point that I am a guy, not who I fancy. Well, that turned into a bit of a ramble, I hope I gave some insight. People will assume you’re straight, but it isn’t as bad as it seems because being gay is considered quite normal and widespread, being bi even more so.