How many months/years do you have to be together with your partner before asking them to marry you?

Not that I'm planning anything yet, but I was just wondering about your thoughts about it.

 

I think marriage is something that is determined by what feels right for you.

For me personally, I would have to truly love that person very much to be willing to marry them. Otherwise, I'd not wish to get married at all. Even then I'd prefer not to.

 

We were together for 18 years I think before we got married. That was a legal thing though, I'm not sure I'd recommend it.

 

Personally I would wait until after a year. So no super important issues would be masked by the honeymoon phase or horniness LOL. But I guess when you know, you know?

 

Every relationship is different so there really isn’t a cookie cutter answer for this question. You just have to talk it out and do what’s best for you.

 

I'd say at least a year.

 

Anything under a year is just a bad idea. I'd say 2 is probably the shortest that I could recommend, and is what I did. I think 3 is a pretty safe bet.

 

I would say around 2 years personally, maybe 3. That's enough time for me. Took my parents something like 5 years, that seems a bit long to me.

 

At least two for sure.

 

I would say at least one, but if you're together for five years and you're not engaged you two need to have a serious discussion as to where your relationship is going, one way or the other. If at that point you decide to stay together but not get married, that's perfectly fine as long as you both agree. Personally, I'm not a big fan of the idea of the classic proposal. It's old fashioned. The two partners should discuss the issue over the course of time and come to a decision to marry when they both are ready.

 

This is such an interesting topic for me because it's always one I want to complain about to my parents...but I can't because they got engaged after under a year of dating.

I think it really depends on the couple, but there are also other factors to be considered. I mean my sister and brother-in-law started dating in 2013 but had known each other and been friends since...2008? He didn't propose until 2018 and they just got married last year. And this was after they both found full time jobs and literally built a house together. Their relationship I think is healthy and good.

Meanwhile, a guy I went to high school with started dating this girl in August 2017 after his relationship with his girlfriend of four years ended. He wanted to propose to this girl on Christmas 2017, but his mom and sister convinced him to wait...and then he proposed like two months later. They were juniors in college and had only been dating since August so that's just...crazy to me. They got married last year.

I think it all depends on the people and where they're at in their lives. I mean, I'm too afraid to start dating a guy just because I might have to move over an hour away for work. I think if you know, then you know, but I think you also have to take time and make sure that you know.

 

I'm 14 so don't listen to a word I say, but if a really nice girl asked me to marry her and run away with her to live in a cottage in the woods and make friends with Bambi and Thumper, I would say hell yes! But on like a reality note, personally I think you should have known them for a few months and if yall both really love each other go for it. Just be careful with marrying people super early, they don't always end up being who you thought they were.

 

I agree with most of what has been said, except I marked a year as the lower limit. Imo the first year is trial period and if it isn't meant to last, it will fall apart during this time. Non of my relationships reached this magical 1 year length so far. And long distance relationships aren't my thing at all. On the other hand, I don't know what I would consider the upper limit. 5 years for sure, but I'm not a huge fan of the state ingerfering in private life, so under marriage I would understand moving in together and sharing life. If it isn't happening after those few years - yeah, something is off. I can't really imagine that, how you wouldn't want to live with someone you love.

 

2-3 years, you get past the “honeymoon” phase of relationships, and are able to see beyond the ‘love goggles’.

With my ex fiancé, I was with her officially about a month before I proposed. The relationship lasted 18 months. She left me, dumping me by a letter that she left the ring on.