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do you think she could like me or im just making up a whole reality in my head

Discussion in 'Family, Friends, and Relationships' started by ellief, Feb 14, 2020.

  1. ellief

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    im a freshman in hs and literally my favorite person (sophomore in hs) like i have a crush on her i think and i only just realized that recently. i know she's into boys at least and she could possibly be a closeted bisexual but like i feel like i think that about every girl. i played jv volleyball with her but i only started actually being friends with her at the homecoming game and she was so nice and told me to come sit with her and she was super touchy ig but i can't tell if that's just her personality. she always asks me to get food with her after school when shes free and at one point we were #1 bsf on snapchat until she stopped snapping me significantly idk y. anyway, sometimes shell like smack my ass which is also a girl thing but like she ain't doing it to anyone else that i see. i feel like shes touchy with me and could possibly like me but i could also just totally be making this up. she does talk about guys a lot, but also about hating them so like idk help.
     
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    Have you tried mentioning something LGBT+ related in conversation to see how she reacts? Or you could casually come out to her (e.g. mention a woman that you find attractive, which could be a celebrity)?
     
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    well my school is very open and i know she's not homophobic, but i also fear talking about it with her like i've done that with a few other people like saying a girl is hot and they just look at me like um what did you just say? and like if i told her i liked her it would just be super awkward cuz i know she isn't friends with many lgbt+ people so idk
     
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    I was thinking that it could give her a window to open up to you, rather than her potentially being homophobic.

    And I wasn’t suggesting that you tell her that you like her either!

    Could you suggest doing something together?
     
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    i mean i do go places with her pretty often if thats what you mean and we talk all the time on snapchat
     
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    As you don’t know that she‘s attracted to women and it seems a open conversation isn’t going to be possible/appropriate, I think you’re best approaching it as trying to develop a friendship and with the understanding that a friendship might be all that she’s able/willing to give.

    Are there openly LGBT people at your school? It might be a better use of your time to focus on developing friendships with them.
     
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    yes thank you that's very helpful but ofc there's out people at my school but i don't have the same common interests as them and i don't fit in with their group. i'm not really friends with any girls into girls
     
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    That’s a shame, but not much you can do about it within school. Are there any LGBT youth groups outside of school? Or clubs related to your interests?
     
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    not any that i can think of. thats kind of why i use this forum