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Can others see you as Gay?

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by fjs, Feb 8, 2020.

  1. fjs

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    I have often wondered if am heterosexual man. Dose questioning mean that you not hetro?

    I have to admit, that at times as a man I have found myself fantising about sex with other men; wondering what it is like? I have also fantitised about two women having sex.

    But when out in the real world I nearly always find myself turning my head at women. But lots of the women I have been attracted too, I have later found out are lesbians.

    Also people have in the past asked me if I am gay? My first answer is to say no; but I am left thinking is that answer a 100% accurate? Can they seething that I can't?
     
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    Questioning whether or not you're straight doesn't mean anything more than that. Straight people can question their sexuality as well.

    I have plenty of straight friends who have been frequently asked if they were gay. On the other hand I have other non-hetero friends who have never been asked - I've never been asked either.

    You seem to be reading into things more than necessary. Focus on how you feel rather than other people's perceptions of you.
     
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    It also depends on the person asking. Maybe they see something that reminded them of a gay friend of theirs. I think it is rude to outright ask like that. I have often wondered what it is like to be with a man as well. You should explore and try new things, maybe go to a gay bar and see if you feel right.

    Peace and Love
     
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    Other gay people maybe. But that’s kind of nice sometimes.
     
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    But mostly, no, doubtful
     
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    [QUOTE="fjs, post: 6691928, member: 23616] Also people have in the past asked me if I am gay? [/QUOTE]

    I wish someone would ask me if I’m gay. So I can ask them if it matters.