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Did you ever fall for a closeted guy?

Discussion in 'Family, Friends, and Relationships' started by lovetoomuch, Feb 19, 2020.

  1. lovetoomuch

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    I would just like to hear a personal experience if anyone has one. Over 1.5 months this guy with supposedly strong feelings for me (who claimed to care about me so much) all of a sudden seems like he doesn't care about me at all anymore. He has essentially pushed me away. This is truthfully the first guy I have even fallen in love with. Things moved super fast between us and we got really close, really quick.

    He (28 years old) is not out to anyone - no friends, family, etc.. He has been dating guys without anyone knowing for about a year now and is convinced he will come out when he is in a serious relationship with a guy.

    I'm trying to move on with my life because we had a conversation yesterday and he was pretty insensitive saying "I've been heartbroken too. You're not alone." This is truly, though, my first heartbreak.

    Has this happened to anyone before with a guy in the closet? He suddenly seems to push you away and want nothing to do with you after being so caring, sweet, and understanding previously?

    Thank you.
     
  2. lovetoomuch

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    Or girl*. Sorry, didn't realize that until I reread the title!
     
  3. Orr

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    I can't speak much from experience, but I (closeted) am currently having a secret crush on someone who is closeted himself. What I can say is that we are frequently anxious about being outed accidentally. Perhaps there are things you do that unwittingly make him uncomfortable? Personally, as a result of my closeted-ness, I am also inexperienced with intimacy and relationship. It might be the same case as him, but it sounds like he has been on the dating scene for a while, so perhaps a change of heart on his part is a possibility.