What are you attracted to?

I think men look far sexier naked than clothed. And that might seem like a no-brainer, but what I mean is that I'm not that turned on by men wearing thongs or tight underwear. I also find guys chests sexier than their abs. And I don't care for guys who are very muscular. I like guys with a little definition in their bodies, or guys who are slender.

 

Hmm, well, I seem to really like "male" bodies combined with feminine attire/behavior. Even if you take a man and woman of the same body type, height, etc. there are small differences that add to the appeal of both. Men have slightly denser bones, muscle mass, hair, thicker, oilier skin, even internal organs!

No idea if its due to upbringing or something biological, but I don't feel like I have to treat them as helpless dames. There's more a sense of equality (not only due to similar parts), and dare I say, competition? Yeah, absence of ingrained gender roles are definitely a plus. This could be due to smaller numbers of queer folk, the "newness" of coming out, or pushback against wider culture.

Oh, and porn is a terrible indicator.

 

Depends on the dude really... if I’m attracted to them, then... I guess I feel horny and turned on at the sight of them.

Hmm, looks aside, it’s usually the lack of drama and conflict when you’re around them. I can’t get tuned on if there’s always some crisis to deal with.

I usually tend to go for Latin guys, they seem to turn me on more than anyone else. They could be skinny up to a few extra pounds.

A lot of them are douche bags, but if you can find the right ones to be around, they’re they best!

 

There is no such thing as hocd. Although you will find references to it on various websites, including websites that ought to know better, it it really is not some standalone version on the spectrum of obsessive compulsive disorders. It fundamentally trivialises things to suggest otherwise.

As many people have pointed out, porn is a terrible indicator and we cannot read anything into what happens when we view porn. A more reliable indicator is our own private thoughts and fantasies. If you find that you are thinking about men in a sexual way (without porn or any other sort of erotica) it will reveal more about your feelings, but I suspect there is nothing there.

 

@hatemylife

Hey. I don’t know anything about HOCD. But, I have heard that sometimes people with OCD will begin to obsess over something and it can cloud their interpretation of how they really feel. So, you might be obsessing over trying to determine if you are really straight or gay and overthinking the signs of it. I don’t know how to advise someone who is OCD to stop overthinking it because that is sorta the thing about intrusive thoughts.

Have you been to see a counselor to discuss the reasons why you believe you may be gay or bisexual? I think, for most of us, we sorta know when we find someone attractive. We may try to convince ourselves that the same sex attractions aren’t real because society teaches us that those thoughts are wrong. In your case, it almost seems like you are TRYING to have same sex attractions to be sure you might not be gay. I’m not sure that’s very common.

Anyway. To answer your question. My same sex attractions are beyond any sort of a description really. It doesn’t matter if a guy is naked or clothed or what his member looks like. It is a “hunger” that the right guy can stimulate. And, there is no denying it. I hate any porn and cannot be stimulated by it. I don’t care for naked photos of most guys. But, if the right guy crosses my path, I know it.

We are all different. Do you ever get this feeling that I call hunger when you see someone you find attractive? It can be very subtle. Try being open to that maybe and not checking out porn.

 

@hatemylife

Hey. I don’t know anything about HOCD. But, I have heard that sometimes people with OCD will begin to obsess over something and it can cloud their interpretation of how they really feel. So, you might be obsessing over trying to determine if you are really straight or gay and overthinking the signs of it. I don’t know how to advise someone who is OCD to stop overthinking it because that is sorta the thing about intrusive thoughts.

Have you been to see a counselor to discuss the reasons why you believe you may be gay or bisexual? I think, for most of us, we sorta know when we find someone attractive. We may try to convince ourselves that the same sex attractions aren’t real because society teaches us that those thoughts are wrong. In your case, it almost seems like you are TRYING to have same sex attractions to be sure you might not be gay. I’m not sure that’s very common.

Anyway. To answer your question. My same sex attractions are beyond any sort of a description really. It doesn’t matter if a guy is naked or clothed or what his member looks like. It is a “hunger” that the right guy can stimulate. And, there is no denying it. I hate any porn and cannot be stimulated by it. I don’t care for naked photos of most guys. But, if the right guy crosses my path, I know it.

We are all different. Do you ever get this feeling that I call hunger when you see someone you find attractive? It can be very subtle. Try being open to that maybe and not checking out porn.

 

It seems to me that you have your answer. I would suggest staying away from porn completely for awhile and concentrate on trying to meet people in the real world.

 

I’m attracted to everything because I’m pan.

 

I’m attracted to the male form. Dressed or undressed makes no difference.
I do not find breasts and vaginas attractive. though my gaze will follow a pretty woman, but I have no sexual feelings to woman . I do like looking at beautiful woman

 

With women, I find that they look can look very attractive clothed, but sometimes when they take their clothes off, their bodies can sometimes be a bit disappointing. This is possibly caused by clothing that accentuates certain parts of their bodies (such as by creating a lot of cleavage). I also find androgynous looking women, non-binary AFAB people, and trans men very attractive, the latter two being more attractive than their gender counterparts.

 

On what I'm attracted to, I'm still figuring that out! Athletic, muscular men sometimes catch my attention, and I fantasise about them a fair bit. Irl I have been attracted to quite feminine guys though, so there's that.

I know it's hard to stop worrying about not being straight since you can't just flip a switch on emotions like that... but there is really zero evidence of any same-sex attraction I'm seeing. If you were secretly gay, other guys - or at least the thought of other guys (not using porn, as others have said) - would spark some curiosity and excitement but it does nothing of the sort for you.

Seems counterintuitive but the best way is indeed to let go of thinking about it. Put it this way - you already know you like girls, so why not embrace that and enjoy the feelings you have towards them? If hypothetically speaking you are attracted to a guy in the future - so what? Again, enjoy the feelings you have towards him. Point is that you don't need to know the exact specifications of your sexuality or predict the future to live life.

 

u can acknowledge that some females are good looking, but their bodies disgust you?

no the female form doesn’t disgust me at all I actually like looking at the female form
I just prefer to look at penis instead of a vagina.
I prefer the male form

#14hatemylife, Today at 6:58 AM

 

Muscular, athletic men hairless men and some times feminine guys as well. But I’ve always been attracted to guys legs, feet and lips.

If a guy has ugly feet it really kills any attraction.