Can a broken parent raise an unbroken child?

I concur with the pre-grieving thing. I grieved my dad when he was forced out of the family home and left town. I grieved him again when he moved even further away. My mother when she attempted suicide and was in a nut-house for months when i was 3. He fought to have her released and for us (self and sister) not to be put in care. Any wonder why i don't feel much love for her now..... I'd already thought she was gone at age 3.
Only now at 55 am I in therapy and sifting through the related issues, and yes, in the meantime I've been pretty Fd up, and proactively chose not to procreate. I'm really happy to now have the opportunity to unfuck myself, painful though it is.
Sadly it's far too late for my mother, never present in herself either then or now.

 

Sometimes when a child grows up they break the mold and do not do what was done to them.

Some how it is possible to not get broken to the point where you break, and you somehow
stay who you are in a way where what happened to you does not rule who you have become.

There is much hope. There is much love. There is a future out there.

TM

 

Dear God, I hope so. I have screwed up so much as a parent. I got diagnosed with bipolar as an adult and it's been very hard to control. My marriage ended after 18 years. I have made so many mistakes... but I always tried, and I always loved them with all my heart and let them know that. I apologized when I screwed up. I don't know what else I could have done. I didn't come from an ideal family myself and I don't think I had worked through as much of it as I had thought when I had children.