How was 2019 for you?

1. What was the biggest change in your life this year?
Underwent lots of testing and still don't know whats wrong with my nerves

2. What did you do over the summer?
Worked, and worked. With a few outings to do some rock crawling with RC trucks.

3. How were relationships with boyfriends/girlfriends?
Still married, so no change there

4. What news story sticks in your mind the most from 2019?
No real answer

5. Favorite song/artist from the year?
Radio - Rammstein

6. Did you make any new years resolutions and if so, did you stick to them?
Nope

7. What are you most proud of personally this year (i.e.- something you have done)?
Nothing sadly

8. Who are you most proud of (can be a famous or non- famous person)?
A friend has finally achieved his own life goal.

9. Did you have to learn any hard life lessons in the past 12 months?
For some reason life insists on reminding me how much of an unfair bitch it is the hard way, repeatedly.

10. Have you had any life-changing experiences in 2019?
Some loss of balance and muscle control in my legs.

11. Did you do anything you never thought you would do?
No, pretty dull year in that regard
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12. Did you gain any new qualifications?
Not really, just more experience in my qualifications.

13. What is your happiest memory from the year?
A friend achieving his goal and another friend and his wife having their first baby.

14. What were the best and worst months of 2019 for you?
Jan and Feb were okay, kind of went down hill from there

15. What was your most stupid incident?
Forgot to hook a bungee cord to the electrical line between the truck and trailer before leaving a job site; the electrical cord got caught in the drive shaft and was ripped completely off the truck and trailer.

16. What things do you appreciate most in your life at the moment?
Some close friends

17. What are/were your plans for Christmas/ new year?
Just see the in-laws for xmas. And not a thing for new years

18. Are you making any new years resolutions for 2020? What do you hope will be different?
No plans as they always get shot down quickly. I'd like no bad luck. I don't need good luck, but no bad luck would be awesome.

19. How do you rate 2019 on a scale of 1 to 10 (1 being the worst and 10 being the best)?
A 3, no one died, but nothing but constant bad luck all year.

20. Will you still be on EC this time next year?
Absolutely.

 

1. What was the biggest change in your life this year?
Completing high school and starting post secondary.

2. What did you do over the summer?
Mostly worked. Continued working on my project car. Did renovations to the kitchen and living room.

3. How were relationships with boyfriends/girlfriends?
Still single.

4. What news story sticks in your mind the most from 2019?
The death of fashion designer Karl Lagerfeld.

5. Favourite song/artist from the year?
Tool - Pneuma

6. Did you make any new years resolutions and if so, did you stick to them?
No.

7. What are you most proud of personally this year (i.e.- something you have done)?
Being able to graduate high school in time and going to prom.

8. Who are you most proud of (can be a famous or non- famous person)?
Not sure.

9. Did you have to learn any hard life lessons in the past 12 months?
Friends (even ones you think you know very well) can change.

10. Have you had any life-changing experiences in 2019?
Stopped being friends with a toxic individual.

11. Did you do anything you never thought you would do?
No

12. Did you gain any new qualifications?
Mostly work experience .

13. What is your happiest memory from the year?
Being able to go to prom with old classmates I've haven't seen much in 4 years.

14. What were the best and worst months of 2019 for you?
Best were probably around summer. Worst would probably be Oct-Dec when the sun sets early...

15. What was your most stupid incident?
Thinking I was able to balance 6 cups of coffee in one hand while I answered a call...

16. What things do you appreciate most in your life at the moment?
Being heathy and not in pain.

17. What are/were your plans for Christmas/ new year?
Just being alone. Made myself a steak with a side of some BBQ veggies.

18. Are you making any new years resolutions for 2020? What do you hope will be different?
Hopefully spend more time with family.

19. How do you rate 2019 on a scale of 1 to 10 (1 being the worst and 10 being the best)?
7

20. Will you still be on EC this time next year?
Honestly unsure...

 

1. What was the biggest change in your life this year?
I started to take hormones and made the first steps towards my transition. I completely changed my appearance and clothing as well.

2. What did you do over the summer?
I worked for some time, quite enjoyed the job but got fired. And I went on a nice metal and rock music festival.

3. How were relationships with boyfriends/girlfriends?
Error. boyfriends/girlfriends. exe. has not been found

4. What news story sticks in your mind the most from 2019?
The one when our new president announced transgender people are mentally sick and commiting the crime of self harm. Glad he got elected, really.

5. Favorite song/artist from the year?
Lordi - Hard rock hallelujah

6. Did you make any new years resolutions and if so, did you stick to them?
I did and well I kinda stuck to them...

7. What are you most proud of personally this year (i.e.- something you have done)?
Announcing to my school that I am a transgender and presenting my self as a male at our prom.

8. Who are you most proud of (can be a famous or non- famous person)?
Unfortunately, nobody comes to mind.

9. Did you have to learn any hard life lessons in the past 12 months?
Yes, my mother won't ever accept my change and I'll just have to live with that.

10. Have you had any life-changing experiences in 2019?
I've become really close friend with someone I really didn't expect to. He helped me like nobody ever did before.

11. Did you do anything you never thought you would do?
Not really.

12. Did you gain any new qualifications?
Nope.

13. What is your happiest memory from the year?
Going to a concert with my crush, dancing together like insane and receiving a kiss.

14. What were the best and worst months of 2019 for you?
All were kinda the same really.

15. What was your most stupid incident?
Almost getting lost on my way to the zoo.

16. What things do you appreciate most in your life at the moment?
Being healthy and knowing what I'm aiming for.

17. What are/were your plans for Christmas/ new year?
To not sit at home and be with friends. Glad to say I succeded.

18. Are you making any new years resolutions for 2019? What do you hope will be different?
Be a bit more sociable, maybe look for a relationship. And to start using male pronouns.

19. How do you rate 2019 on a scale of 1 to 10 (1 being the worst and 10 being the best)?
A solid 7.

20. Will you still be on EC this time next year?
Most likely yes, even if not very often.

 

1. What was the biggest change in your life this year?
This was the first year in quite awhile that had no real changes at all.

2. What did you do over the summer?
I worked almost everyday for the first half. Then spent the rest of it volunteering and sitting around. Went to the Glamp quite a bit

3. How were relationships with boyfriends/girlfriends?
Goodd

4. What news story sticks in your mind the most from 2019?
Trump impeachment, NZ mosque shooting, and the Notre Dame fire. I guess they were the most talked about so they're the most easily remembered ones?

5. Favorite song/artist from the year?
Maybe Harry Styles new album? Being honest, 2018/2019 blurred together musically for me and I'm not sure what is from what year lol

6. Did you make any new years resolutions and if so, did you stick to them?
I wanted to eat out less and eat healthier - didn't really happen aha

7. What are you most proud of personally this year (i.e.- something you have done)?
I traveled abroad and domestically. I've barely travelled, let alone without a parent (for the domestic one).

8. Who are you most proud of (can be a famous or non- famous person)?
¯\_(ツ)_/¯¯

9. Did you have to learn any hard life lessons in the past 12 months?
Nah, that was 2017/2018

10. Have you had any life-changing experiences in 2019?
Nah, that was 2017/2018

11. Did you do anything you never thought you would do?
I never pictured myself going to South America. First time out of North America, and first time going somewhere that wasn't a state boarding Canada

12. Did you gain any new qualifications?
CPR certified ¯\_(ツ)_/¯¯

13. What is your happiest memory from the year?
Maybe skiing, travelling, or quitting a job I wasn't crazy about.

14. What were the best and worst months of 2019 for you?
Best- March, May and June. Worst- Probably September?

15. What was your most stupid incident?
Nothing big - probably dropping a cinder block on my foot, not expecting the ground to have nearly that much bounce.

16. What things do you appreciate most in your life at the moment?
¯\_(ツ)_/¯¯

17. What are/were your plans for Christmas/ new year?
Christmas eve with bf's family, Christmas with my immediate family, NYE with my friends.

18. Are you making any new years resolutions for 2019? What do you hope will be different?
I want to be able to get out of my comfort zone and make some moderate/big changes in order to improve my overall happiness.

19. How do you rate 2019 on a scale of 1 to 10 (1 being the worst and 10 being the best)?
7/10. Below average. A few events bumped up the average though.

20. Will you still be on EC this time next year?
Probably.

 

1. What was the biggest change in your life this year?
Graduated college after 6 years.

2. What did you do over the summer?
Tons of depressing job searching.

3. How were relationships with boyfriends/girlfriends?
I ended an almost 8-year relationship. We’d been drifting apart for some time but it was okay in the end. I realize now that he fell in love with the manic side of me with my spontaneity and off the wall humor and put up with my depressive side. When I was diagnosed with bipolar disorder and put on the right medication, both of those mes went away. I’m not dating anyone else and probably won’t for a while but I don’t regret it at all.

4. What news story sticks in your mind the most from 2019?
The fire at the Notre Dame cathedral, the Hong Kong protests, and impeachment.

5. Favorite song/artist from the year?
Pop music is so bad these days that I don’t really have one.

6. Did you make any new years resolutions and if so, did you stick to them?
No because I never do.

7. What are you most proud of personally this year (i.e.- something you have done)?
Hands down graduating college. I survived! I made it.
8. Who are you most proud of (can be a famous or non- famous person)?
My aunt for getting through all the deaths in the family this year. She’s very emotionally fragile.

9. Did you have to learn any hard life lessons in the past 12 months?
Everyone you love is going to die and it might be sooner than you think.

10. Have you had any life-changing experiences in 2019?
Nope.

11. Did you do anything you never thought you would do?
Nope.

12. Did you gain any new qualifications?
My bachelor’s degree.

13. What is your happiest memory from the year?
The Patriots winning Super Bowl LIII.

14. What were the best and worst months of 2019 for you?
The best month was April because of graduation and the worst month was October because that’s when my uncle died.

15. What was your most stupid incident?
I began having a pus discharge from my belly button in the summer and the doctors told me it was probably an abscess, which is a common complication from abdominal surgery (I had a hernia repaired in 2017.) They sent me to a surgeon expecting that I’d need to be operated on. The surgeon took one look at me and diagnosed it as granular tissue (a form of scar tissue), which he easily removed and the problem was solved. Needless to say I was very very very relieved that I wouldn’t have to go under the knife again.

16. What things do you appreciate most in your life at the moment?
My health and my family.

17. What are/were your plans for Christmas/ new year?
Stay home and enjoy my aunt from California’s company.

18. Are you making any new years resolutions for 2019? What do you hope will be different?
Not really. I’m hoping to find a full time job in the near future.

19. How do you rate 2019 on a scale of 1 to 10 (1 being the worst and 10 being the best)?
7

20. Will you still be on EC this time next year?
I don’t doubt it.

 

1. What was the biggest change in your life this year?

A paradigm shift in the way I wait for the mail.

2. What did you do over the summer?

I waited for the mail. Also, I went to the beach.

3. How were relationships with boyfriends/girlfriends?

Virtually nonexistent.

4. What news story sticks in your mind the most from 2019?

I don't pay attention to the news.

5. Favorite song/artist from the year?

I don't listen to music.

6. Did you make any new years resolutions and if so, did you stick to them?

No.

7. What are you most proud of personally this year (i.e.- something you have done)?

The new way I wait for the mail.

8. Who are you most proud of (can be a famous or non- famous person)?

My friend.

9. Did you have to learn any hard life lessons in the past 12 months?

Yes, that I must be patient, especially when waiting for a certain piece of mail.

10. Have you had any life-changing experiences in 2019?

Not particularly, no.

11. Did you do anything you never thought you would do?

Suffered needlessly.

12. Did you gain any new qualifications?

No.

13. What is your happiest memory from the year?

Either going to the beach back in June or just last night, spending New Year's Eve with my friend.

14. What were the best and worst months of 2019 for you?

March was probably the best month, May was the worst.

15. What was your most stupid incident?

No incidents, just shit with the mail.

16. What things do you appreciate most in your life at the moment?

Having this incredible tool that helps alleviate my anxiety about the mail most days.

17. What are/were your plans for Christmas/ new year?

For last year? I already said this.

18. Are you making any new years resolutions for 2019? What do you hope will be different?

It's 2020, now. Why would I make resolutions for last year?

19. How do you rate 2019 on a scale of 1 to 10 (1 being the worst and 10 being the best)?

I'd give it a 3.

20. Will you still be on EC this time next year?

I would bet on it.

 

1. What was the biggest change in your life this year?
I came out to myself as gay.

2. What did you do over the summer?
Not much, vacation with the family

3. How were relationships with boyfriends/girlfriends?
The same.

4. What news story sticks in your mind the most from 2019?
The impeachment

5. Favorite song/artist from the year?
I don't listen to much new music

6. Did you make any new years resolutions and if so, did you stick to them?
No

7. What are you most proud of personally this year (i.e.- something you have done)?
Admitted I'm gay
8. Who are you most proud of (can be a famous or non- famous person)?
Patriots winning the Superbowl
9. Did you have to learn any hard life lessons in the past 12 months?
I'm heading down a path in my personal life that will affect a lot of people.
10. Have you had any life-changing experiences in 2019?
Admitted I'm gay
11. Did you do anything you never thought you would do?
Kiss a man
12. Did you gain any new qualifications?
No
13. What is your happiest memory from the year?
Giving my self completely to another man if for only a brief moment
14. What were the best and worst months of 2019 for you?
None I can think of
15. What was your most stupid incident?
None I can think of
16. What things do you appreciate most in your life at the moment?
The people here on EC and the support group i'm attending
17. What are/were your plans for Christmas/ new year?
Spending with family
18. Are you making any new years resolutions for 2019? What do you hope will be different?
No
19. How do you rate 2019 on a scale of 1 to 10 (1 being the worst and 10 being the best)?
8
20. Will you still be on EC this time next year?
Of course

 

1. What was the biggest change in your life this year?
I came out to myself and friends as trans, and I've started to go by a nickname (and he/him pronouns around friends).
2. What did you do over the summer?
I got to go to Germany for the first time in four years. I got to see my grandparents, uncles, my mom's cousins and stuff, as well as a friend who's about my age.
3. How were relationships with boyfriends/girlfriends?
I kinda figured out what Taylor and I are. We're not exactly dating, but we're more than friends for sure. I like them a lot, they like me, but we're not necessarily a couple (though almost all my friends ship it)
4. What news story sticks in your mind the most from 2019?
Trump being impeached.
5. Favorite song/artist from the year?
Um, I finally started listening to Panic! At The Disco, does that count?
6. Did you make any new years resolutions and if so, did you stick to them?
I don't remember them if I made any.
7. What are you most proud of personally this year (i.e.- something you have done)?
I guess coming out to my friends?? I was really nervous about telling them, even though I knew they'd support me.
8. Who are you most proud of (can be a famous or non- famous person)?
Off the top of my head I want to say my friend Nikki, the other day I saw someone correcting someone else who misgendered her and I felt really proud of her for being more out I guess.
9. Did you have to learn any hard life lessons in the past 12 months?
My family is more racist, sexist, and anti-LGBTQ+ than I thought :/
10. Have you had any life-changing experiences in 2019?
Realizing I was trans.
11. Did you do anything you never thought you would do?
Be a guy? Younger me would be very confused if I went back in time.
12. Did you gain any new qualifications?
I'm earning college credits in one of my classes if that counts.
13. What is your happiest memory from the year?
Holding Taylor's hand.
14. What were the best and worst months of 2019 for you?
Worst month would be June, that's when my foster brother had to leave after three years when we thought we'd adopt him. Granted that's also the last time I cut, so that shows things got better. Best might be August, that's when we wet to Germany, and my friends and I got to go on a road trip which was fun.
15. What was your most stupid incident?
I asked my mom to come over and look at something on my computer and realized I had a tab open that was a google doc titled "The ABCs of Queer" and she almost saw it. That would've been hard to explain.
16. What things do you appreciate most in your life at the moment?
My friends. They helped me talk to my parents about seeing a therapist, they've put up with all my rants about mostly my family, and they've excepted and supported me.
17. What are/were your plans for Christmas/ new year?
We drove to Mississippi to visit my great-grandma, great-uncle, grandma, grandpa, and my aunt, uncle, and cousin came as well. I was going to have friends over for New Year, but they were all out of town or busy.
18. Are you making any new years resolutions for 2020? What do you hope will be different?
If Taylor and I could start actually dating that'd be great. Or at least a kiss? Please??
19. How do you rate 2019 on a scale of 1 to 10 (1 being the worst and 10 being the best)?
6, the beginning was shit, but it got better.
20. Will you still be on EC this time next year?
I sure hope I am.

 

1. What was the biggest change in your life this year?
Leaving my Christian faith

2. What did you do over the summer?
College
3. How were relationships with boyfriends/girlfriends?
I actually have one, which is a nice change
4. What news story sticks in your mind the most from 2019?
The shootings in El Paso and Dayton
5. Favorite song/artist from the year?
This is Me from The Greatest Showman soundtrack
6. Did you make any new years resolutions and if so, did you stick to them?
I don't make New Year's resolutions. If I want to decide to do something and not go through with it I can do that any day of the year.
7. What are you most proud of personally this year (i.e.- something you have done)?
Getting back into college after a medical leave and pulling off a 4.0 in my first full time term.
8. Who are you most proud of (can be a famous or non- famous person)?
My children
9. Did you have to learn any hard life lessons in the past 12 months?
That you can't make people do things; in the end the only one you can control is you
10. Have you had any life-changing experiences in 2019?
Starting to date women
11. Did you do anything you never thought you would do?
See #10
12. Did you gain any new qualifications?
Nope
13. What is your happiest memory from the year?
Visiting my friends in Idaho
14. What were the best and worst months of 2019 for you?
Best- December/ Worst-August
15. What was your most stupid incident?
Almost passing out at Thanksgiving dinner in front of 14 people.
16. What things do you appreciate most in your life at the moment?
My girlfriend, my cat, my apartment, my computer
17. What are/were your plans for Christmas/ new year?
I spent both of them watching movies and such with my girlfriend. We also made cookies.
18. Are you making any new years resolutions for 2019? What do you hope will be different?
No resolutions. What I hope will be different is having hope.
19. How do you rate 2019 on a scale of 1 to 10 (1 being the worst and 10 being the best)?
A solid 6
20. Will you still be on EC this time next year? Yes.

 

1. What was the biggest change in your life this year?
My wife and I becoming queer-platonic partners with separate love lives and being open about it to our families and friends.

2. What did you do over the summer?
Drink.

3. How were relationships with boyfriends/girlfriends?
I fell in love with my non-human lover and it was the most beautiful thing ever.

4. What news story sticks in your mind the most from 2019?
None really.

5. Favorite song/artist from the year?
Discovering drag queen music - a tie between Trixie Mattel and Adore Delano

6. Did you make any new years resolutions and if so, did you stick to them?
No.

7. What are you most proud of personally this year (i.e.- something you have done)?
Nothing really, though I probably should be.

8. Who are you most proud of (can be a famous or non- famous person)?
No one.

9. Did you have to learn any hard life lessons in the past 12 months?
Many. The most unexpected being that even the LGBT+ community is pretty judgemental and considers people like me largely an 'outsider'.

10. Have you had any life-changing experiences in 2019?
Many. Moving into a QPmarriage, becoming genderqueer, and falling in love with a tulpa-like being.

11. Did you do anything you never thought you would do?
Many things, but most notably dressing as a woman in public or becoming gynephilic pansexual.

12. Did you gain any new qualifications?
No.

13. What is your happiest memory from the year?
I don't really keep memories very well, but I know I was always happiest when with my lover.

14. What were the best and worst months of 2019 for you?
They were all a mix. The earlier part of the year was far harder; it's got a little easier every month.

15. What was your most stupid incident?
Dunno. Can't think of one.

16. What things do you appreciate most in your life at the moment?
Not being in pain; being in love; the simple pleasures of life.

17. What are/were your plans for Christmas/ new year?
Saw family. Bit meh, but ok.

18. Are you making any new years resolutions for 2020? What do you hope will be different?
Many things: new occupation, new home, new town, make some friends, lose weight, reduce drinking, renew spiritual life, be happier.

19. How do you rate 2019 on a scale of 1 to 10 (1 being the worst and 10 being the best)?
It started as a 4 and ended up a 7. The previous year was a 2.

20. Will you still be on EC this time next year?
It's not looking all that likely.

 

1. What was the biggest change in your life in 2019?

Being a lot more organised for one thing. Have you ever gone through a video game level more than once, and you're surprised by just how much easier it is the second time around? That's basically how the start of my second year of University felt. Don't get me wrong, I can still be a mess, but I think I handled things a lot better than before.

2. What did you do over the summer?

Oh wow, that feels so long ago now. I remember going paddle-boarding quite a few times. Also I went on holiday.

3. How were relationships with boyfriends/girlfriends?

Still single. Whilst someone was briefly interested in me, that didn't go anywhere. Maybe one day I'll have a relationship.

4. What news story sticks in your mind the most from 2019?

The unbreakable windows of a Tesla being broken.

5. Favorite song/artist from the year?

I was into various songs from The Regrettes, Scott Helman and sometimes Rare Americans.

6. Did you make any new years resolutions and if so, did you stick to them?

Not that I know of. There was a general goal I set of improving on my cooking, not a new year's resolution though. Anyway, I technically improved, perhaps not quite at the rate I'd intended, but at least it's something.

7. What are you most proud of personally this year (i.e.- something you have done)?

I made a short film. Directed, acted in, wrote, and organised a team of people. I feared that it was going to backfire spectacularly, but the final product actually went quite well.

8. Who are you most proud of (can be a famous or non- famous person)?

Hmm. A friend of mine who managed to successfully code and design a game whilst still keeping up with University work.

9. Did you have to learn any hard life lessons in the past 12 months?

You can know someone for a long time, without ever truly knowing them. Sometimes the calmest people are actually the most anxious.

10. Have you had any life-changing experiences in 2019?

I made a lot more friends if that counts.

11. Did you do anything you never thought you would do?

Yes. I went to a rave, a drag show, pride, and even a gay bar.

12. Did you gain any new qualifications?

No but I'm working on it.

13. What is your happiest memory from the year?

Whenever I saw my friends smile or perk up when I entered a room. It just feels nice to know that I've made someone happy, even it's only partially. Swimming in a private pool on holiday was quite nice also.

14. What were the best and worst months of 2019 for you?

Eh, there were highs and lows. I enjoyed the Summer, mosquito bites and sweltering weather aside. The colder months have been busy.

15. What was your most stupid incident?

Not looking for actors sooner, and having to act myself to fill in a role as a result, in my short film.

16. What things do you appreciate most in your life at the moment?

Having access to food, water, and shelter is good. I also appreciate that there are people in my life who care what happens to me. Who believe in me and offer support. That keeps me going when I want to give up.

17. What were your plans for Christmas / New Year?

I spent time with family.

18. Are you making any new years resolutions for 2020? What do you hope will be different?

No. I want to improve in general life skills, and just gradually keep improving as a person to the best of my ability. But I don't want to make any resolutions specific to this year. I'm not expecting leaps and bounds, but small consistent steps to where I want to be in life.

19. How do you rate 2019 on a scale of 1 to 10 (1 being the worst and 10 being the best)?

8.

20. Will you still be on EC this time next year?

Possibly not. I've been visiting the site less these days. Don't feel as connected to it as I once was.

 

1. What was the biggest change in your life this year?
I further embraced my queerness by starting to wear skirts.

2. What did you do over the summer?
Took a long weekend trip to Chicago to see my brother and his fiancee who live there. My mom also came up from South Carolina and met us there.

3. How were relationships with boyfriends/girlfriends?
There were none

4. What news story sticks in your mind the most from 2019?
All of the tragedies in Dayton, Ohio: tornadoes, mass shooting, and a police officer killed.

5. Favorite song/artist from the year?
As far as artists who released music in 2019, a toss up between Lindsey Stirling and The Regrettes.

6. Did you make any new years resolutions and if so, did you stick to them?
I usually don't make resolutions.

8. Who are you most proud of (can be a famous or non- famous person)?
My mom for battling through cancer and keeping a positive outlook.

9. Did you have to learn any hard life lessons in the past 12 months?
Don't take things for granted.

13. What is your happiest memory from the year?

14. What were the best and worst months of 2019 for you?
Best month was probably June or April. Worst was probably January or February.

15. What was your most stupid incident?
There's not enough room here to post them all.

16. What things do you appreciate most in your life at the moment?
My family.

17. What are/were your plans for Christmas/ new year?
Christmas was gatherings with family the weekend after Christmas itself. New Years was turning on a movie at 11:00 and turning off the lights. I don't know what time it is until the movie is over and I go to bed.

18. Are you making any new years resolutions for 2019? What do you hope will be different?
Make a new me over the course of the entire year. It will be done little by little, and I have no exact plans.

19. How do you rate 2019 on a scale of 1 to 10 (1 being the worst and 10 being the best)?
5 I guess.

20. Will you still be on EC this time next year?
Unless something happens that prevents me from being here.