So it’s been one full year since I came out as bisexual to my husband. Our marriage has been through some obvious bumps but gotten stronger. My husband has been encouraging me to connect with my queer side and supports me having a polyamorous relationship with a woman. He made it clear he does not want to be involved and respects my autonomy, we have both set ground rules we are working through as things unfold. A few months ago it became clearer why he is so open minded he came out to me as bi and admits to sometimes noticing men, I’ve encouraged him to keep an open and honest dialogue with me too in case he wants to explore. I realize our marriage is unusual and perhaps this is another reason why we bond so well. To wrap things up I’m meeting a woman I’ve been conversing with online who identifies as pan and polyamorous. We have already FaceTimed once so I’m thrilled.
You're both very lucky people, unfortunately nothing like that is ever likely to happen to me. I hope that you both have fun and keep your marriage safe and intact .
I’m actually nervous because I’m meeting this woman Sunday for a date, and this is the first time in my life I won’t be perceived as straight in public if that makes sense. So I have that anxiety added to the anxiety worrying about being stood up.
Good luck with your date! Let us know how it goes. It sounds like you and your husband have a very good and supportive relationship.
Thanks it went well. We are arranging for a second date soon. We hugged goodbye but the kind of hug that lingers and I was thinking about kissing her but I chickened out, because I’ve never kissed a woman. I blushed a lot when she complimented me. When I got home I confessed wanting to kiss her by text and she texted back that she would not have minded if I did. I feel like a teenager writing this.... Then I spent the night talking and bonding with my husband.
We went to a small cafe for lunch, then a small history museum to walk around and talk. Then we got coffee and talked more and she paid for my coffee.
We went out for that dinner and movie tonight, and yes we kissed. It was nice, but awkward like I was a teenager again, but validating if that makes sense? I want to see her again.