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  1. Rorschach

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    I just posted a little blog about me, hopefully i did. I am new to this website. I hope y'all can help me understand myself, because I hate being gay or whatever. I just really needed to talk and my one friend from an a poem website told me to talk with people, that it helps. So I hope it does.
     
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    Hey welcome to EC .
     
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    thank you, hopefully I'll be able to talk my stress out
     
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    Rorschack,

    Hi. I'm kinda new to the site too. However, I worked through to the acceptance that I'm a trans woman a few years ago. I guessed I hated the idea at first too. When I went to a therapist the first thing I did was say," I think I'm a cross dresser. What do we do to make it go away?"

    Well the cross feeding went away once I accepted I was actually a woman. So, now I just dress as a woman does, no problem. Kind of kidding. It was a long process to work through and I have been transitioning for almost 4 years now.

    Talking things out is good. With friends, strangers and maybe a good therapist. Do you have access to one? They can help to guide you through to make good decisions.

    Hope you can find what your looking for.

    Warmly,
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    Thank you for the warm introduction, I have told only two people ever IRL. In my bog I explain how that went. In regards to the therapist part I do not have one. I actually ran a suicide hotline for a while and honestly know all the therapy talk and self help. I like to help others I have done so my whole life but through my 18 years on this earth I have finally reached the point were I am starting to accept it. Thank you again for your response.
     
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    Knowing what advice you would be able to give someone else and being able to take your own advice can be 2 totally different things :slight_smile:
     
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    Hello :slight_smile:
     
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    Yeah I'm great with other people just when it comes to myself it is really hard. And I am still learning to help myself, that's what is hard. Also the self loathing part about being gay and all also sucks
     
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    Hello hey hi how ya doing
     
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    Why do you think you have such an issue with being gay?
     
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    Its just that I have repressed that part of myself for so long, and I have never been able to experience being gay. I have never been who I am, I guess is the easiest way to say.
     
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    Yeah I can totally understand that. Do you live in an accepting environment?
     
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    Not particularly, I don't really think so, my parents could probably forgive me but I don't know with my extended family.
     
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    You are going to have to work on your opinion of yourself for sure. WHat about searching for an LGBT group nearby, you are going to need some support and friends who are accepting, then it is not up to your parents to forgive you as you have done nothing wrong it is for them to accept who you truely are and that is up to them.
     
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    Honestly I am waiting until college for that kind of stuff, one of them I am getting accepted into has a LGBTQ club. I told my parents I would join it because it looks great on my resame, they agreed but honeslty I will join to experience more. I might tell my closest friend group towards the end of the year but IDK
     
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    I'm ok, thanks, Rorschach :slight_smile:
     
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    No problem
     
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    That's ok there is nothing wrong with waiting until college. Coming out or moving forward is all about when you are ready and when the time is right for you.
     
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    Welcome to EC. Don't worry about taking things slow, you're still quite young. If you need help coming out there's a forum for that (or if you want to share a coming out story) and there are many other forums where you can ask anything!

    Take your time and enjoy college (when you get there).
     
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    yeah I have taken it really slow and just wish to be more accepting of myself. It is hard or course, nothing good comes easy. Hey um if you don't mind me asking how did it turn out for you when you came out? I don't mean to offend or cause any harm by that question I'm just in that painful limbo. Also how do you become a full member? I wanna be able to like dm people and or just talk to more people, thank you for your time.
     
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