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I feel like a girly boy...(FtM)

Discussion in 'Gender Identity and Expression' started by Marss, Oct 14, 2019.

  1. Marss

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    Is that normal? It’s probably the reason why I wouldn’t want to transition fully..but yet I feel uncomfortable being seen as a girl. I love make up but I wish I had more androgynous features. I also feel happy thinking of myself as a young guy. Is it valid and normal?
     
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    There is no issue with being more feminine. I cone across to most people as being gay because I'm more feminine. At the end of the day, you have to do what is modt comfortable for you.
     
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    James Charles is a perfect figure of that, his mom thought he was trans because he loves make up and feminine things, but he identifies as gay, the answer to your question is yes, it is normal, everything about who we are is normal, humans like to complicate things and it never works out.
     
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    Sumtimes im lil girl sumtimes a boy dont worry just enjoy
     
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    You'd be surprised at how many times this topic has come up. I know many trans men say they're only comfortable showing their "femme" side after transitioning and passing as male. Are you a young guy?
     
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    Yep, I’m pretty young. 20. But I’ve been questioning my gender since puberty. :frowning2:
     
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    im 16 and have been questioning my gender alot. i like makeup and glitter and crud but i wanna be seen as male. so ik how you feel.
     
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    Me too, but when I hit puberty and discovered i'm gay, I tried doing girly stuff and seeing myself as a girl because I thought this is what gay men are like, I liked it for a change, but the next day I knew I can't pretend to be someone i'm not, so I thought I wasn't gay and this is how the confusion started.
     
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    Hey bud, normal is relative. From what I've seen around the interwebz, this is a very normal yet uncomfortable feeling/experience among transguys/nonbinary/genderfluid people. I also blame toxic masculinity and dead gender roles for the fear of femininity in guys all over (and even cis females, in a way). The world is changing though, in a better direction. But in the meantime, you do you and be unapologetically you and wear some makeup if you want! Doesn't make you any less of a guy! :slight_smile:
     
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    There's all kinds of non-binary and genderqueer folk, and ultimately you are what you are regardless of labels. It's all cool and valid.

    Some days I present masc, some days I present femme, many times I'm a bit 'mixed'. Screw the binary, lol. :slight_smile:. Explore (safely) who and what you are, take your time, experiment and talk and introspect - enjoy the journey and there's no rush. Things will likely change over time anyway. Be yourself.

    Good luck!
     
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    I have no idea if it's normal, but you're describing me as well. (Also a huge Bowie fan, so holla)
    But yes. I've *always* felt male, but never particularly masculine. I'm 32, afab, and have had a while to think about all of it. I've never posted to a page like this, but I was drawn to your post right away. :slight_smile:
     
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    I’m so glad! It’s nice to know you’re not alone in your feelings x (oh and holla right back atcha!)
     
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