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I broke up with my girlfriend last week. Why is this so hard?

Discussion in 'Family, Friends, and Relationships' started by RydiaMeg24, Nov 3, 2019.

  1. RydiaMeg24

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    So, last week me and my ex gf broke up because she was being verbally abusive to me and once threatened to hit me. That day, I was saying to myself that I can't keep putting myself out there because if I do, I'm just going to keep getting my heart broken. But since then, Ive been thinking about how much I want someone to share my life with. Why is it so hard to find someone who truly loves me, rather than one who pretends to love me and then treats me like garbage?
     
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    Hi there,
    I’m sorry to hear you are going through this hard time. Do you have a support system that you can turn to? Like a group of friends?
     
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    There's the pride center that's south of me, about an hour ride away.
     
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    Well there you go. Are you able to drive there?
     
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    I can take a bus.
     
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    Well that’s good! Have you given it any thought to go the pride center?
     
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    Hey I am sorry you are feeling down. You definitely did the right thing splitting up with your girlfriend, unfortunately just because something is the right thing to do it doesnt make it hurt less. We dont just turn our feelings off.
    It sounds like going to the pride centre could be a good thing to do, it will likely take your mind off things and give you the chance to potentially meet some new people and make some friends at the very least.
     
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    I've been there before. But my ex also goes there. That's my main issue.