Hi I'm new and I need help!

I was once in a similar situation. I was too afraid to talk to my friend about what I was feeling. Without realizing it I started finding ways to avoid them, and even acting slightly negative toward them. We eventually grew apart and barely communicate at all. I often wish we’d remained better friends, or even more, but it’s yet another on a list of what might have been. Not trying to be gloomy here!

You could try taking the focus off of you specifically, but still talk about the subject, might help. For instance ask your friend if they have a crush on anyone, or what celebrities they think are cute? Find common ground. If either of you have had romantic relationship in the past, ask what was enjoyable about it. Or if not, what kinds of things you might look forward too. Mostly keep having fun and don’t feel pressured either way.

 

I understand your struggle, but you don't have to change who you are. If you do think that this is becoming an issue, you can go out and "be reminded" in public places. But I say you should at least come out to your friend. You certainly don't have to express your feelings for her, but at least test the water and see if your friend can help you figure out sexuality.

 

Hey lils3,
I think it is normal to feel confused at first especially you havent been on this spectrum of sexuality ,but you dont need to change if thats how you feel. You can be reminded that girls are cute too like boys lol and you dont need freak bout it coz its okay how you feel. You can try and see if she reciprocates your feelings or just see to it first .do you think shes goin to be shocked if you tell her your feelings?

 

Hi,
I wanted to ask what I should do if I came out to my friends as Bi,
but I also kinda have a crush on one of my friends.
what should I do???
plz help me!

 

Hi Natasha!
The question is are u ready to come out to them like no pressure i hope they're the accepting friends when you do coz not all people have the same reactions . There’s nothing wrong to admit and be honest to them as long as youre ready ,
And if they real friends they should understand you and respect you to hear your feelings.
Aaaw im sure your crush will understand and maybe you can talk in private as well and have a deep conversation how it all started .
Good luck to you Natasha

 

Thanks so much for the advice. It's really nice to have lots of people who have gone through the same thing and be able to talk to them.

I hope everyone has a great day!

 

It's so nice to know that there are so many people here that understand what your going through.
And it's ok if your questioning you sexuality, believe me it took me 8 months to come out to my parents and friends and it felt like a weight lifted off my shoulders.
And I'm just going to tell her that i'm bi and see how she reacts and see if I should tell her I like her.

Wish me good luck!
Have a good night or morning or afternoon!

 

Aw im sure shes a kind of friend would understand your feeling and it is an honest feeling to her so its not something to be apologized or for her to feel bad coz if i were in her place it is also kind of a compliment and good that somebody’s genuinely cares for me.

 

Hi,
I do have some experience in the all girls school area.
I do not think being only around girls would be the reason for your crush. Otherwise most girls at girls schools would be in the same situation.

Do you have celeb boy crushes?

How does it feel crushing on your friend? Are you nervous, trying not to look at her? Hoping to see her throughout the day?

No matter what, I would just explore more how you feel towards her and about other girls or celebrities you watch or follow. No one ever has the answer straight away. It's rather tricky process.

 

Thanks, this is really helpful.
I'm still trying to completely grasp my feelings about my friend.
but this will surely help.
Thanks!

 

Great job,
this is great improvement.
lol it's so much better than me.
I still haven't told my crush that i'm bi
keep up the good work!

and if your friend is really supportive of you and is a good person, then I don't think she will react badly to you crushing on her.
i hope my crush reacts nicely, lol.

Have a good day!