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how to make it obvious you like a girl without actually telling her

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by faultyink, Sep 17, 2019.

  1. faultyink

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    she's still pretty closeted and probably not very good at telling when someone's showing signals, so how can i make it obvious i'm into her but not TOO obvious, if you know what i mean???
     
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    boosting this lol please help
     
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    Well if you're me you steel yourself and make it plainly obvious in a rush and then they don't believe you because you didn't look...right? Or Something? Or worse they didn't hear you and you have to start over
     
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    How often do you hang out? Does she know you like girls? Also does she know that you know that she also likes girls?
     
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    we hang out a lot, and she knows I'm gay and she knows I know she's gay!
     
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    Do you normally hang out in a group with others or just the 2 of you?
     
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    You could just tell her you think she’s cool and ask her if she wants to hang out. That doesn’t have to mean much. You then have the opportunity to get to know her and her you.
     
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    both. we've hung out with a couple other people before, but usually after they leave we hang out together for a while and just talk
     
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    I ask her to hang out a lot haha, I feel like she might have an idea I like her because of that? but I'm not sure. we're hanging out again tomorrow night (with a few others) and I want to give more signals but I'm not sure what??
     
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    I mean, I guess you can simply start flirting with her casually and see how it goes. Initiate physical contact, drop flirtatious jokes and whatever.

    I personally think choosing not to be too obvious is often a waste of time that won’t really change the end result (either she is into you or she is not).

    I like the build up and the chase but also notice that being obvious (to them) about liking someone (them) isn’t a bad thing, as long as you respect the fact they might not be into you and back off accordingly.

    At the party I would just flirt a lot and initiate some physical contact.

    I definitely notice when a girl initiate physical contact a lot and it’s usually a sign she is into me.
     
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    ^^Agree.
     
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    Hanging out is good, I would probably try and hang out with her more with just the 2 of you as well.