So I have this friend I met last year. We're good friends, and I'm also close friends with her best friend. I've been wondering if I have a crush on her though. I think she's attractive and I like the idea of dating her but I'm not sure if I love her or just like the idea of being with someone. I'm thinking about asking her to a school dance next schoolyear. I've never had a romantic relationship and I'm not sure what to do. Do I love her? Do I just find her attractive? She's nice, funny, a writer like me. She likes drawing. I feel like I've known her for years! I haven't even hung out with her outside of school. Does anyone have suggestions on what to do, or on how to figure out my feelings? And if I do like her, how should I approach her? I don't know her sexuality but I do know she's had (maybe still has?) a crush on a guy. (Which I felt sad about.)
Hey I don't think you should worry too much about whether or not you love her just yet. You may or may not come to the conclusion that you like her but even if you like her, love is something you can worry about much later. It can be tough to figure out whether you just really like someone as a friend or more. Things to consider are how you would feel if she got into a relationship with someone else? Or whether you feel as though you would like to get closer to her or kiss her etc. It might be easier to establish these things if you get to know her better. Maybe hang out with her outside of school, that might also help you establish her sexuality etc.
I second y he previous advice. Enjoy the process of getting to know her better and finding out what are the things you share in come that can help the relationship stronger. Everything will fall in place in do time not need to push it or over think it. Best of luck
Update: This girl and I are going to Homecoming as buddies. I didn't ask her if she wanted to go with me just if she was going. She said she was and that since we don't know who else is going we can be Homecoming buddies. Don't know if she lowkey asked me on a date or if she just wants to hang out with me. Either way, I'm excited!
My friend has a boyfriend. We went to Homecoming as friends. We're still friends but she doesn't know I have a crush on her.