What are the signs of a closeted gay man?

This man in particular has had various people ask or imply he was gay in the past, claims to have been "tricked" into the home of a gay male couple as a child before escaping, and is particularly interested in stereotypical gay male shows involving fashion, home decorating, as well as ice skating. He was caught once watching Magic Mike and immediately changed the channel when his wife came home.

Claims to have been given directions to a gay bar as a joke coworkers would play on newer employees, goes to Pride alone ("just curious"), and doesn't seem much interested in women at all (two relationships, total, in fifty something years), yet is hugely into female singers and other entertainers/celebrities.

He was raised by all women, and had quite dominant sisters and a mother. Also the youngest of his siblings. Loves to wear tank tops and has quite "feminine" body positions. Has had gay sites come up in computer search history, which he blamed on someone else.

 

I forgot to mention that he seems to spend quite a bit of time with an openly gay co worker, and takes "business trips" across the country often. His wife says he's leading a "double life", hence being so secretive/defensive.

Apparently he's aware of the rumors, as he half jokes about people's perceptions/reactions.

That was my first thought, too. One gay friend said he pinged his -dar, and another coworker used to pat him on the butt and say, "You're a little suspect"

Another time, someone genuinely asked his wife if he was gay, and he didn't speak to that guy for many months after that.

 

Come to think of, I don't think he's ever specifically described himself as "straight"

Just curious. If it isn't already obvious, I'm speaking about my father. No idea about MM, but it was a bit strange that it was the stripping part, specifically. I've always found Channing Tatum overrated, and remember discussing it with a female friend who thought the same.

I forgot to mention a few weeks ago he was watching a scene on a show? where two guys were holding hands and staring into each others eyes (can't remember if they kissed). The whole time, he was focused on the scene, muttering, "what the hell?" and "I don't know whats going on here..."

He was apparently a fan of the film "Cruising", as he brings it up occasionally. Seems to have made an impression on him.

No idea if its related to "internalized homophobia", but he likes to bring up how when I was young and had an "effeminate voice", taught me to "man up". He blames my mother, aunt, grandmother, etc. for that. Because of his upbringing, he's a bit critical towards women and always putting them down. We didn't have the easiest relationship (he was into all kinds of sports, and seemed to favor my more athletic older step brother).

 

Hi. I came out to him a while ago, but we haven't talked about it since, and I think he's secretly hoping I'm "confused" or its a "phase" (he was also the one who said "I've wondered..." maybe due to having few girlfriends growing up).

Do you think his possible repressing is responsible for him being such a miserable person, drinking, making "I'm lonely" facebook posts? He's retired now, but spends more time away from the family.