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40’s and looking...For what exactly?

Discussion in 'LGBT Later in Life' started by JenP2, Jul 16, 2019.

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  1. JenP2

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    I’m 42 I have a good job, I feel like my life is progressing along nicely. The problem is I live in a small town, where no one admits they are a lesbian. I am looking for some new friends that can relate to me, and who knows maybe find that special person. Anyone out there want to talk?
     
    #1 JenP2, Jul 16, 2019
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    Small town life! Seems harder for this type of thing than being in a city would. I feel for you.

    For me, being bi, and married to a man... no clue how to ever approach this with any women since everyone assumes I'm straight of course. But here's hoping, maybe someday...

    Good luck to you!
     
    #2 IslandMama, Jul 19, 2019
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    Have you seen this? I don’t know if it’ll help but it might have some good ideas.
     
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    Hey @JenP2 - I am new to the lesbian community and entirely feel what you are talking about. There’s a strong gay community in my neighboring city, but even with that, I just don’t know how to begin being a part of that.

    I just recently realized and accepted I’m gay, and it was brought about when I fell in love with someone. That relationship is uncertain, and I feel like I need to get out there. I need just what you are wanting, too!
     
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    Hey welcome to EC, it's definitely tougher meeting people in that kind of environment but I'm sure there must be other lesbians there.

    EC is a great place, full of amazing people but just a word of warning it's not a dating forum. Just be aware of the rules over sharing of contact details in public areas of the forum. I'm not trying to put you off staying though it's an amazing place to chat to people especially if you are feeling alone.
     
    #5 silverhalo, Jul 20, 2019
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    In my 40s too, looking for friends to just talk about life in general
     
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    Well EC is a great place for that.
     
    #7 silverhalo, Aug 12, 2019
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    Same here, let me know if you ever want to chat.
     
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    I would love to chat with you. Your challenges are different than mine...but I can relate to being socially isolated. I’ve got a great career, friends and family. I am stable and “normal” in a economic and social sense. However, while I have some good friends, I’m closeted and lonely—nobody in my family or close friends know about who I am internally. It would be great to have a new friend who understands. :slight_smile:
     
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    Ok Jen, I'll bite. .. :slight_smile: What do you wish you were doing right now? Like not broad life goals things, just specifics. If I showed up at your house right now, what would you take me to do?
     
    #10 Mamalim, Aug 18, 2019
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    Oh yeah that will be cool
     
    #11 Black78, Aug 26, 2019
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