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Narcissistic ex?

Discussion in 'LGBT Later in Life' started by Peterpangirl, Jul 5, 2019.

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  1. Emmareld

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    That perfectly describes how I felt with my relationship coming to an end a few months ago. I didn't notice how they only liked (not loved clearly) me for how I made them feel and when it came to my feelings, it didn't matter. It felt real, and they seemed real, but in the end they weren't. I hope you overcome those feelings of anger and loss because of it.
     
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    Do you want to talk about it? I wish I could send you a little of what I have.
     
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    Yes. It would be helpful to talk. I used to be a trusting person, but now I am on the look out for red flags in terms of any future partners. Other than that, I am fine with people on a friendship level, just not keen to risk opening up further.
     
    #23 Peterpangirl, Jul 16, 2019
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    I looked to see if you were a full member because I wasn't sure if you would have rather talked by pm but as long as you are happy we can chat here.
    In the grand scheme of things the breakup wasn't that long ago and I know you are wishing you could heal faster but these things just take time and you don't know how much time to begin with. You don't want to take the risk at the moment because you are still hurting. It will take time and the right person to come along that is worth the risk.
     
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    Yes. Hopefully time will help.
     
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    Do you have any plans that you can look forward to over the summer?
     
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    Yes I do thanks. And I'm going to do my best to make each day productive.
     
    #27 Peterpangirl, Jul 18, 2019
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    Definitely, even if you do nothing, if that's what you need I think it can be an accomplishment. Fingers crossed the nice weather stays, she says as she sees the rain on the window.
     
    #28 silverhalo, Jul 19, 2019
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    Song addition: This Is Me Leaving You - Mary Chapin Carpenter. Yeah it's hetero, but still. (I hope this is a legal out-link, I think it's within guidelines.)

    Oh, and imho she was pressing your affection buttons... of course you got hooked back in. It's not just like going off a drug, it is going off a drug. Time heals. Hang in there!
     
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    Thank you! And I am enjoying the song.
     
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    Ah Mary Chapin Carpenter. Another one of my celebrity crushes. I find myself changing the pronouns is songs now a days.
     
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    Me too. She needs me. I'd be so good for her. Sigh. :slight_smile:
     
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    Yay. The song is in B-flat, but each verse consists of holding back, teasing and denying you the chord, approaching and backing off. (Until the chorus.) Art imitating life?

    Hope you are feeling better. Losing something you never actually had hurts more than losing a real thing. It sucks, but our minds are like that.
     
    #33 beenthrdonetht, Jul 20, 2019
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