(Im 15 and never kissed/dated anyone properly) I for sure thought that I was into girls (im a girl btw), when i discovered this crush i had on this girl ive never even talked to, i fantasise about what it would be like to be with her both non-sexually and sexually, but i still think about what it would be like with boys, that confused me but i have very deep feelings for this girl (who probably doesnt know i exist and probably isnt into girls) and my feelings for her always overpower my crushes on boys. Today i found myself forgetting she exsisted (i hadnt seen her at all today lol) and my feelings for boys were taken to a whole new level. Do I actually have a full crush on this girl? Or is it just a "girl crush"? I have no idea
When straight girls talk about a "girl crush" they're generally just referring to another girl that they admire or want to be like, not someone they'd want to be with romantically or sexually. Have you considered that you might be bisexual?
I still have the same problem and I’m 28, though I’ve basically come to terms that maybe I’m a lesbian or bisexual (with maybe liking women more) but I’ve never dated a women at all so I’m still slightly confused.
Hey don't worry you will all get there. I know it is really tough when you are trying to figure things out but labels really aren't important. I mean if you want a label then perhaps go with not straight. Crushes and attraction can swing between boys and girls in people that identify as bisexual so it's not uncommon. As difficult as it is often I think the less you think about it the clearer it becomes.
This actually helped a lot, I didn’t want to be that person especially if I was confused so I broke up with my boyfriend who I was with for 4 years almost a year ago. We were talking about kids and moving in together and I felt panicked because plus tbh I felt like having sex with him was a chore. He would be a great friends for me in fact er still talk almost everyday but I have no one to talk to about this (no friends that are ️ so sometimes I just feel lonely and depressed. I told my mom a while ago and she doesn’t have a problem with it but I really think she is still in denial and can’t compartmentalize if I do end up with a woman.
Try not to worry about your mum whilst you figure things out. It's tough not having anyone to talk to but EC isn't a great place and everyone here is friendly so chat away here, it might not be quite the same as having the support in real life but it's still really helpful.
Ha just realised I wrote EC isn't a great place, apologies to anyone who read and believed it, I mean is a great place.
Congratulations, now you know another part of yourself. This is excellent news in the path of self realization.
