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Anyone else get "flashes" of intense moments of desire

Discussion in 'LGBT Later in Life' started by brainwashed, May 31, 2019.

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  1. brainwashed

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    OK so I've been at this gay thing for a while. Years. Yesterday I got another intense period of desire for this guy I lusted for in high school. The period of desire (ya I like that term - "period of desire") lasted about an hour and half. The entire session of intimate fantasy was very intense. This is important, some times these periods can be crippling - I cant do anything else but live the moment.

    The above mentioned is not an isolated case. "periods of desire" are becoming more intense and more frequent. And my intense lusting is not isolated to one guy. There are many.
     
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    Wow, I totally get it!

    It happens to me too. It usually happened for any guy I'd find attractive - classmates, anonymous guys at the gym, actors...but nowadays it's been happening for this specific hot guy friend of mine.
     
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    It's a very interesting phenomena and I'm not sure of the mechanisms. In my case the semi dream state can be visual.

    Lol, I can only imagion what this would like if I were a teenager!
     
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    Oh yea, I get these intense fantasies of having an emotional connection with another woman. It can be crippling at borderline obsessive at times. I think its strong like that cause I'm not acting on it. It's like the desire to eat cake but I never do it.

    And yes that's why teenagers can be hard to deal with Haha. I had an intense crush on a boy when I was a teenager and my thoughts about him were strong. I was always in fantasy land. I would have went nuts if I didn't act on my feelings.
     
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    Bingo!
     
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    All the time! I’m having them more and more frequently
     
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    Thanks for the feedback. God I'm glad I'm not the only one. The visions/lusting is not flashbacks. I've had those, thus know what those are like. I'm going to define the visions/lusting as decompression acceptance. Heavy term decompression acceptance - yes I've been drinking. I'm decompression, accepting my innate sexually - finally. And I feel I'm finally accepting that I am gay, no doubt about is.
     
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    Oh and welcome to ECs. It's a great place to hang and open up.
     
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    Oh yes yes yes!,
    I was coming out of the surf the other day and the most drop dead gorgeous guy in his mid 30’s was running laps of the beach in his speedos
    My desire and lust for him was unbearable
    Oh to be in my thirties again!!!!
    Every time I think about him a smile breaks out on my face, he was gorgeous!
     
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    @brainwashed

    I would guess that we all go through periods of this intense sexual desire. I believe it is human behavior. And, when we are not "getting any" we also have the added level of "horny" on top of it.

    I met my BF while back at work for a week during an extended surfing vacation. For the next three weeks, I could hardly look at one of the other male surfers without thinking of him and desiring him.

    It was, almost, crippling. I couldn't sleep and was in a constant state of arousal. I hadn't felt this way since my early twenties when I had just met my wife.

    The day after I returned I met my now boyfriend and we spent a whole night and the following day together. The pent up desire was incredible.

    I think part of this is, for me, was that until recently, I had never been with a man. So, there were years of fantasies. What seemed odd, though, is the intensity of the desires for this guy are so much stronger than any other man I have ever met. It's almost like my attractions are at another level. Everything about him turns me on even after 7 months now.

    It's been four days since I have been with him and I just about cannot function. I wonder how long this goes on. I don't remember it lasting this long before.

    Human sexuality is so interesting.
     
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    What is it about men and the ocean? When I see men and salt water, be it surfers, ocean swimmers, fishermen, my heart goes all a flutter and and my desire to be with a water mane goes through the roof, it is as you say Nick unbearable
     
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