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Any advice?

Discussion in 'Family, Friends, and Relationships' started by Wilzyax, May 31, 2019.

  1. Wilzyax

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    Okay I have always had a huge crush on one of my closest friends, but he is quiet stubborn. So I just stamp and get nowhere with him. I now he is gay, but afraid he will never get the courage to break out.

    In the meantime, another guy I got friends with have given me some weird signals. Weird prolonged eye contact, a very sexualized and dirty mind when talking to me. I can’t actually tell exactly why, but I got this kind of gay vibe from him, and that he kind of like me but still are in the closet like me.

    Anyway, the problem is, I still love my old friend, but a part of me want to try to get somewhere with this new friend. Me and this new friend has known each other for 2 years.

    This newer friend, who gives me these vibes, well I am not in love with him, its more like a sexual tension or lust. Is it wrong of me to want to do things to him and see where it is going when I am still in love with this old friend. To see if I might develope feelings for him.

    If it’s not wrong of me, how can I make a move on this «new» friend? I really want to do something about the sexual tension between us. The tension started a month ago, and it is only getting worse by day. It feels like I just have to do something with him to release some of the tension. But how do I do it without fucking everything up. Because he is a good friend, and I don’t want to fuck up the friendship we have either.
     
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  2. canadawet

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    You and your old friend are not in a relationship, you don't owe anything to him. Unless you think it'll hurt you, I say go for it. As for how to go about it, I might not go with anything too overt because you don't know if he's gay or if you're misreading these vibes. Perhaps invite him out on a date for the two of you, putting the ball in his court to make a move when the two of you are alone.