hi! So, to begin, I am an 18 year old male. Since I was 14 I have identified as bisexual, but have only dated girls. I do watch porn, and the porn I watch is primarily gay porn. Straight porn turns me on, but not nearly as much as gay porn. Also, whenever I’m in a change room / locker room with other guys who are naked, I get an erection. I’ve never been in a women’s change room, obviously, but I don’t think I’d get nearly as turned on if I were surrounded by a dozen naked women. I’ve spoken with one of my best friends of 7 years about my sexuality problems, and even though this doesn’t necessarily indicate anything, she is adamant about the fact that I am gay and in-denial. I really want to figure this out because it’s annoying me. Please help me, and I’m sorry if you get a lot of threads like this, I just want to figure myself out and be happy. Thanks, a confused teenager.
You're the only one who gets to decide how to interpret your sexuality, so all we can really do here is give you some things to think about that might help you gain some clarity. It's pretty telling that you recognize that you don't think you would be as turned on around naked women as you are around naked men. It's not uncommon at all for someone to realize they're attracted to the same gender, and assume it means they're bisexual, when they're really just gay. Of course, there are plenty of people who are genuinely bi, and perhaps if that's what you are, you just have a strong preference for men. I'm just saying it could be that heteronormativity is messing with you and leading you to believe you are attracted to women, as you've been expected to be your whole life.
Well it's all on your shoulders, bro. You are sexually aroused by both genders so you're technically bi. BUT>>> But no guy is fully bi, right? I mean there was a time you liked girls. Maybe this is what is holding you up/confusing you. The past, I mean. Keep in mind people change. Maybe you're just a late bloomer (meaning you are a gay and not bi). Get it? Hmm...why don't you try being fully gay? I like your post.
Hi everyone I could be completely wrong. But to me it seems like your slowly tuning in to your sexuality and discovering who you are. Yes you might be bisexual. But again a couple of encounters with guys and you might immediately think I'm gay. You need to safely go and experiment and see what you like. Don't end up like me..... Gay relationship in my teens, then married a woman. But now out as a gay man. You are young and have time to figure this all out. Jon
It's annoying having someone in your ear constantly telling you what you are but really it doesn't matter what you are what matters is that you are you and you can do whatever you want with whoever you want in your life
