Time to stop fooling myself - I am gay.

When I left my wife I did some hook ups just to be sure I hadn't made a massive mistake!!
I made the right choice, when we come out later in life it's natural to have doubts. Sometimes we have to take the guy by the balls and go with it!!

 

As Rade said it’s natural to have doubts after all we are human. Being gay doesn’t provide any protection against doubt. What it does do is allow you face then honestly and openly without hiding behind societal pressures to embrace heterosexuality. I urge you embrace your same sex attraction and start enjoying being with a man instead of fantasizing about one. Real men are so much more satisfying. Ones in tights even better.

 

@amiready

When I was coming to terms with my sexuality...the third time...I used to wander around my little college town and do some flirting at bars. One guy I had flirted with for a couple months finally had just had enough and propositioned me. It was terrifying and compelling at the same time and I will always remember it as one of the highlights of my life. The validation that the attractions are real, significant and deeply a part of me.

I urge you to see if that is who you are.

So, because you are part of the EC family, I am giving you an assignment. Since you live in NYC, at the epicenter of the gay world, do what I did. Go flirt with some guys and see what the f$$k happens.

 

The desire to be with a man just became overwhelming. I fantasized about it all the time. I had gone to a few gay bars but didn't really put myself out there. The I found ###### and the amount of available gay men looking to have sex was great. I finally went for it and have never looked back. Now I only have sex with men and it is awesome!

 

Like Ready2bout once I had been with a man there really was no going back. I knew that first time this was what I had longing for.
After that night I knew unequivocally I was gay and wanted to live as a gay man. For the last two and half years have lived as a openly gay man and it is fantastic. I feel as if every day is an awesome adventure with my BF. Could never date a woman again, it’s simply not anywhere near as satisfying and fulfilling as being with a man. We are more of a couple than any other relationship in my life. Life as a gay man is fun, rewarding and I feel part of a broader LGBTQ community that is coming into its own. Very exciting from my vantage point.
Please open yourself up to the possibilities in living a gay lifestyle.

 

New York single guy. GO GET WITH A MAN!

 

amiready, after reading all the banter here I think you have a lot of anxiety about being with men sexually. you want to...but are afraid of looking inexperienced. I went through the same thing as someone discovering my true self much later in life. join a gay social group as in Meet up or something similar and get to know the other gentlemen. there will be a lot of support there and hopefully you will meet a nice guy. the thing is...it can be fun not a chore or embarrassing. go on a date. go for dinner. go to a nude beach or the ballet. or just hang out.

now as for guys in tights.....I hear ya! I'm in pantyhose in my avatar.