Transphobic Friend:

I have a friend, who I call Alex, who seems to be
transphobic... When we would game together, he somehow
found out about my bisexuality and would friendly tease me about it.

While we were gaming, we were playing a fashion game and I would
naturally dress as a male/masculine character and he would say, jokingly,
that it was "suspicious."

Alex: So you like girls!
Me: IM NOT GAY
Alex: Right -
Me: Yes
Alex: You're lesbian
Me: NO ITS NOT THAT
Alex: I will support you! But I don't know about the gender thing --
Me: IM NOT GAY ALEXXXX

I was in denial because that was the most embarrassing thing ever (EVER)
and now he thinks I have a liking for Belle Delphine, but when he said that,
we were laughing and shouting, so I didn't call him out on that.

Later, I would tell him the story of me, a bisexual, masculine/non-binary girl and clear up
that I am not transgender or SPECIFICALLY gay. Or lesbian, whatever.
He tells me it took him a little while to read and that "Hanna is still Hanna, don't go chaning
your name or something weird and end up identifying as an attack helicopter."
I promised him that wouldn't happen (I don't need a name change), but what he said was
obviously weird.

I only keep my identity with me, myself, and those I choose to share it with (I came out
to an IRL friend yesterday), but I am not always talking about it. It is just in my mind, something
I almost never remember, because there are no obstructions that are going to make me bring it up,
unless I need to. What I mean, is that, I don't think I'd ever talk to Alex about my gender thing again
or transgenderdism (unless other forces came into place), so would I need to talk to him about it?

I mean, if I knew he was telling someone that what they are doing it wrong (in terms of transgenderdism),
then I would want to call him out. What would you do?

 

I just remembered that my best friend is semi-transphobic, he doesn't
believe in genders outside the binary, but I only remembered that because
of this post. So I don't think I have to call either one of them out.

I'm not going to judge or call them out until their opinions hurt someone else, I think.