I feel like today is the day to tell my husband about my orientation. I decided yesterday that it is time and I feel more at peace with moving forward and finally talking to him about it. I have been questioning consistently for well over a year so it’s been a long time coming. We have couples therapy tomorrow so I really do not want to have the talk this evening so we can process in therapy as well. Please think positive thoughts for me as I take this big step forward.
Thank you! Still feeling good (and nervous). Planning on sending the text after lunch about wanting to hang out this evening and chat... that way I can’t change my mind later.
You have always been a positive presence on EC. Now it's your turn to get some good vibes and karma coming your way. Go for it, we are all cheering for you!
Thank you everyone for your kind words and support. I’m feeling the positive virtual vibes I sent my husband a text message this afternoon asking for us to hangout and chat this evening after the kids are in bed so I have set the stage and just need to actually go through with it. Deep breath.
I do so hope and pray that the conversation goes well for you. Speak from that heart. Please let us know how this goes. Take care!
Hey Elle! Not sure if you already did it (or if you are doing it right now), but I hope everything goes well! Keep us updated.
Elle, so proud of you. Please make the leap tonight. The rest of your life awaits you as the person you long to be. Pain unfortunately is a part of the process of liberation. It however brings the freedom you long for. Good luck.
"Fear is a natural reaction to moving closer to the truth." -Pema Chodron It'll get better...I promise. Sending warmth!
Thank you everyone! Reading your support throughout the day yesterday help me keep my strength and momentum to move forward. We talked last night and it went surprisingly as well as it could. He’s hurt but he was also sensitive to my feelings and acknowledging how difficult this must be for me... given our communication/relationship challenges I really didn’t anticipate this going as smoothly and calmly as it did. He had a lot of questions I wasn’t able to answer such as timelines and what I want with our marriage so hopefully we can sort some of that out in therapy today. I know his emotions can change as I have read from others as he continues to process this new information but the first step to this journey has begun. He ended the conversation with saying he just wanted me to be happy. Hoping we keep this respectful energy as we continue to navigate all of this. Thank you again for your support!
Wow! I know how hard this is to do! I hope you are able to keep the lines of communication open as you work through this difficult time. It is always a bit bittersweet to say congratulations, I suppose. But, congratulations on beginning a more open life that is yours. Best.
Congrats on the first steps towards the gay lifestyle you desire. The path ahead will have some bumps for sure but in the end you both will be happier. Understand that he is hurt and needs understanding as well. He won’t be able to process everything overnight. Remain open to talk but firm in your determination to embrace the lesbian in you. Hopefully the days ahead will bring new clarity to you both.
